- 7 years ago
- Wedding: September 2011
9-10-11/6:30 am. “please tell me that is not thunder”, as my soon to be husband crawled back into bed, afraid to answer me, he responds, “yes it is, it is pouring outside”. I hadn’t opened my eyes yet and I simply broke out into laughter. 3 weeks prior, our house suffered water damage from a busted water pipe. That didn’t freak me out. 2 weeks before the wedding, someone mistakenly reports to me that my flower vendor shut down shop. That didn’t freak me out. 1 week before the wedding, I found myself looking for a new party rental place. That didn’t freak me out, but it certainly irritated me. 2 days before the wedding I find out that where I was supposed to get ready was no longer available. See, we rented a 2 story beach home in which they turned the upstairs into a seperate unit for rental. It was promised to me at no extra charge to allow me to get ready away from the groom and guest. Except the owner forgot to tell his daughter, therefore she allowed a friend to use it for the weekend. That didn’t freak me out. So what is a little rain, huge chunks of hail, thunder, etc.? All I could do was laugh my ass off. My beautiful beach front wedding, would have to be moved inside.
Fortunately, the sun decided to shine and the outdoor wedding was on! I was able to prep downstairs away from the groom and then make my way to an upper deck away from everyone. There was an accident on the freeway, making guests late, including the DJ, photographer, officiant and caterer. My wedding planner had control of everything, I hadn’t a worry in the world. Last potential freak-out moment: officiant says he’s not going to marry us because he didn’t like how I had planned my ceremony. Rewind to the day before. The officiant did not take part in the rehearsal because his fee did not include rehearsal. No problem, how hard could it be, me, the groom, the best man and matron of honor. Play the music and get the timing right. However, I decided the groom and I would not have our backs to our 30 guests. The officiant didn’t like that and threatened not to marry us. Did I freak out? Heck no, I simply said, this is my wedding and I will have it the way I want. He eventually agreed. I wasn’t worried however, my backup plan was my future mother-in-law who is a minister. Threaten me all you want buddy, because I am not standing with my back to my guests!
Ceremony time was set for 5:30 sharp. Traffic, late guests, late vendors, difficult officiant and how it happened, I don’t know, but 5:30 sharp the wedding began! I walked down to see my handsome groom with a big smile, guests with the “how beautiful” looks on their faces and beautiful decorations that my planner and friends used to bring my vision alive.
No traditional wedding gown or tuxedo. I didn’t walk down to “here comes the bride”, my father didn’t give me away in the traditional way, and we didn’t have traditional vows. In fact, part of the vows were written based on a sweet text message he had sent me 4 weeks before the wedding. We also didn’t say “I do”, we were not introduced as “Mr & Mrs” nor “husband & wife” and we didn’t have wedding cake!
My vision was an elegant, intimate, no-sand beachfront wedding with a Hawaiian feel. That is exactly what took place. Hawaiian music was played prior to the ceremony and during cocktail hour. The processional song was “Somewhere over the Rainbow” by IZ and I walked to The Beatles “And I love her”. The guests were greeted with “aloha” and our children provided a lei for everyone. We said “me hana” (pronounced may-ha nah) instead of “I do” and plumeria flowers were the primary decoration. We had a sand blending ceremony with our children, and we were presented as a family rather than husband and wife. The recessional song was “Marry Me” by Bruno Mars. If you don’t know the song, look it up, we found it to be quite hilarious and so fitting to our personalities.
The caterer prepared an amazing surf n turf with fish and prime rib, veggies, couscous and salad. During cocktail hour he served cucumber crab cakes and chili lime shrimp skewers. A mini dessert bar took the place of the unwanted wedding cake.
Our first dance was “All for Love” by Bryan Adams, Sting & Rod Stewart. Our last dance was “Not Enough” by Van Halen.
The sunset was gorgeous, the day beautiful and the wedding flawless.
It was absolutely PERFECT!
Happy planning to you future brides, may it be just as memorable and perfect as my experience. Enjoy it, because it is over in a flash and you won’t remember half of what takes place.