(Closed) It was supposed to happen today…

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
1543 posts
Bumble bee

Aw, I’m sorry, hon. I know how you feel, as far as feeling broke and stuck in a rut. I was bitching about just the exact same thing just the other day. 

The only advice I can offer, is to grab your favorite cheap booze and/or cheap takeout on your way home, and have a date night in. 


Post # 4
1046 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012



This always makes me feel better on days like the one you’re having.  Chin up…it sucks to have so much go wrong but it will all work out =)  Good luck, stay tough!!

Post # 5
7 posts
  • Wedding: May 2012

@MissIcecream:  My heart goes out to you! You’re overwhelmed with all thats going on and the disappointments , but you have to focus more on the positive things than the negatives.  1) You’ll be getting a lovely ring from a man who loves you. 2) You have a good job with the possibility of promotion in the future. 3) You only have about 3 months until you know you’ll be saving LOTS of money and paying off some bills. 4) Even though you hit a snafu with the move, you have somewhere you can live -that’s most likely less than yor rent was anyway- until October.     

You and your fiance are already engaged. The ring is just a formality. After 7 years together and engagement ring shopping (you’ve shopped for the ring, I assume you’ve discussed marriage since you know the actual proposal is coming) I’d think you already have a pretty strong commitment to each other.  As for celebrating your anniversary, grab a bottle of 2 buck chuck, light some candles, and together make a toast to already getting through for better and for worse and for richer or poorer.

Post # 6
275 posts
Helper bee

I agree with tigerlilly327. Sounds like this is just a bump on the road. You have a lot to look forward to 🙂 Happy Anniversary!

Post # 6
275 posts
Helper bee

I agree with tigerlilly327. Sounds like this is just a bump on the road. You have a lot to look forward to 🙂 Happy Anniversary!

Post # 7
4693 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I don’t have any more advice to add to what the PPs have said, but (((((big hugs))))).

Post # 8
1314 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@tigerlilly327: I was going to say the same thing. You don’t need a ring to be engaged, yes it’s nice to have something to show publicly your commitment, but it certainly is not needed. It seems like more and more, people are getting engaged without and purchasing one later when they are better able to afford it. Everything will work out, I just know it! Hugs!

Post # 9
160 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Big hugs!!

I don’t have any profound advice, but my sister said something once that made me feel better on a terrible waiting day. She told me to remember that someday in the future I won’t even believe I stressed so much about it. That when we’re married and happy with kids and a house, I’ll look back and forget that I was so upset about not being engaged.

Waiting sucks. I second a PP that a bottle of wine and some takeout sounds like a great plan for the evening.

Post # 10
5110 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2011

OH Im so so sorry!! *hugs* Just look at it this way. You said yourself he is trying so hard. What a man!!! 🙂 It will happen and it will be even more sweet when it does! Keep your chin up

Post # 11
355 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

awe, first off Happy anniversary! secondly, I know it sux being broke, but maybe you could get a redbox movie on the way home (a comedy) and I agree with Wonderwoman217 grab some cheap takeout. Or order a big yummy pizza! I know a good comedy and some yummy food always get me out of ruts. Don’t worry, your ring is just around the corner. I always try to remember that the wait will just make that moment sweeter.

Post # 13
675 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@MissIcecream: Definitely second tigerlilly327. Things aren’t great today, and maybe there’s more crap tomorrow, but the great news is that you get to go home to your healthy, soon-to-be fiance at the end of the day and know that you’re both doing your hardest to make sure the future is better. You’ll get there!

Post # 14
1902 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Your going through a tough time by the sounds of it – but trust me, by the sounds of it when things look brighter and you know you can both get through this together, you will both be ready for marriage.

Some women are only concerned about getting engaged – they should be more concerned about married life and the tribulations it can throw at you.

As the vows go.. “for better or for worse”..

Your going through worse.. but it will get better, and I wish you a speedy proposal once your lives are back on track!

The phrase “when your going through hell, keep going” always keeps me going. Good luck!!!! xx

The topic ‘It was supposed to happen today…’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors