(Closed) “It’s a regional thing” How am I supposed to know?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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4605 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I went to a Catholic wedding once, it was my first wedding ever and people kept looking at me like I was crazy when I asked questions.

I guess people get so used to their own traditions and being around others who are used to their traditions that they forget that not everyone knows everything.

Post # 4
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10366 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Most celebrations and traditions in life tend to have regionality to them. From slang to customs, to what’s “rude” or “polite” – those differences are to be expected, I think. Now, knowing what’s what takes research – and Weddingbee is the perfect place to do that research! And, of course, regionality doesn’t matter if most of your guests are from your region. Nothing to lose sleep over.

Post # 5
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72 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Well, there are certain things that are specific to regions, religons, cultures etc. The best way to find out is to ask or to research.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Well, you have the unique opportunity of being able to plan your wedding without any expectations in your head of what you can and can’t do based on what everyone else has done 🙂 

But, is there something “regional” in particular that you’re worried about?

If so, you might just ask your parents or friends what they think of an idea, to see if anybody will have a bad reaction to it. (In particular, I’m thinking of things that some people consider “tacky” like cash bars and dollar dances, but that other people consider ok because it’s “regional”)

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

My Fiance thought I was crazy when I asked what kind of groom’s cake he wants. He’s from California; I’m from Texas. I guess it’s a Southern tradition? He’d never heard of one; I’d never heard of a wedding without one.

So he says he doesn’t want one at all, since he’s never even heard of it. I was sad (I mean, I need my chocolate, and I have my heart set on a lemon filling for the wedding cake), but then I decided to just have cake balls in lieu of a grooms cake. 

/ramble

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I know that things have been frustrating lately but perhaps you should try and look at this as a fun thing? Even invite the in-laws/parents/whomever it is that is complaining over for dinner and ask them to bring wedding photos. Then have a great time discussing regional things, those which have faded in fashion and talking about weddings they loved. Then you can pick and choose what to throw out the window. 😛 

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