(Closed) It’s a ring thing..

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

I think it is okay to do whatever you want! I have not decided yet… but I kind of like the idea of wearing my ring in on its correct finger. I know that the wedding ring goes on the inside (closest to your heart)… but to me I like the idea of slipping it on over my e-ring during the ceremony. 

Kind of like… he put the first one on my finger as a promise to marry, and then he’ll put the band on to “seal the deal” or something. 🙂

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Traditionally, the wedding ring is supposed to be closer to the palm of your hand than the engagement ring (“closer to the heart”).  So, some brides don’t want to be wearing the engagement ring when the wedding ring is put on.

However, this reasoning clearly would not apply to your grandmother’s ring.  And even with regard to the wedding ring, brides do different things.  Some give it to someone else to hold during the ceremony.  Some wear it on their right hend during the ceremony, then move it back afterward.  Some just have the wedding ring put on over the engagement ring, and then switch them around later.  For Jewish brides, the wedding ring is initially put on the index finger of the right hand, so it’s not an issue.

We didn’t need to worry about this, since we didn’t have engagement rings at all.  But you can figure out what works for you.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

@cliffette:  If your wedding ring is meant to go over the engagement ring, then you don’t have a problem.  You can wear it into the ceremony, and just have him put the wedding ring over it.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’ve been wearing my e-ring on my right hand and my wedding ring will go on my left.

Since living over in the Netherlands, I’ve looked up the engagement ring/wedding ring traditions.  Protestants wear the e-ring on the left hand and the wedding ring on the right.  Catholics do the exact opposite.  Also, something that I didn’t know until a few months ago and Fiance got berated for not telling me…he should have gotten an e-ring as well!! LOL

Other countries do one way or the other and it usually depends on the bride’s religion.  Wearing both rings on one finger is a very American thing (slowly being taken up over here, but simple wedding bands are holding out).

Post # 8
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Sugar bee

@ldyparadox99: haha it’s the same in Germany with the seperate hands but it is engagement on left, married on right. Fiance also had an engagement band, actually even before we were engaged they were partner rings or something – v. common here but he lost his on vacation this year so now he has to wit until next month for a wedding band. It’s been really good practice for him though since he never wore any sort of acessories before. Hopefully, he won’t lose the platinum wedding band which is much harder to replace than his sterling silver ring.

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I actually think it’s the other way around.

The wedding ring goes on first “closer to your heart” and your engagement ring goes on the outside. That is why the engagement ring is taken off (aside from any other personal reasons) of your finger and switched to your right hand or another finger so you can slide it back on the correct finger after the wedding ring is placed on your finger first.

Might be worth researching but that’s what I was always told – and I was told by my jeweler.

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

OK sorry I just did some research on wikipedia because I was curious now… and here is a paragraph from what I found:

One interpretation states that the woman wears the wedding ring below the engagement ring, thus making it closer to the heart. Another practice holds that the woman should wear the wedding ring above the engagement ring, thus sealing the atmosphere of the engagement into the marriage. Still others prefer that the wedding ring should be worn alone. Further, modern ring sets in the United States are often marketed as a three-piece set, including the man’s wedding band, the woman’s engagement ring, and a slender band that is mounted to the engagement ring before the wedding, converting it into a single, permanent wedding ring.

 

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wedding_ring

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