Post # 1
I have never blogged before- nor have I ever used a forum or anything along those lines. I was googling “wedding reception alternatives” and came across this site and I felt like I needed to be a part of this community… given the fact that I have been engaged for 6 years!! I have purposely avoided wedding plans, my fiance and I have been in a relationship for 10 years. We’ve been living together for 7yrs so spending money on a wedding never seemed feasable to me since we use our money to live. Because I am not a traditional bride I don’t require a traditional wedding- nor do I desire one. So planning a wedding is going to be so difficult for me because I have no idea what I want.
I’ve been watching wedding shows for a few months and I see these brides who claim they had this vision since they were a little girl… my childhood was a hardship so the last thing I was doing was daydreaming about a wedding; and now that we are 10 years and 2 kids later my fiance is screaming its time to just do it.
We initially planned last year to do it Aug 2011, but I was able to talk him into waiting another year (I have no explaination for waiting another year other than thinking I need all this time to plan) I really want to elope– he wants a big wedding. He wins– what’s a girl to do?
Post # 3
From your OP it seems like the details aren’t really all that important to you. What about planning a JOP ceremony in a park followed by dinner at a nice restaurant for your nearest and dearest. There are lots of Bees on here that have gone this route (or something similar) and it seems to have worked out perfectly for them.
Post # 4
@UpstateCait: Thanks for your advice, I have no problem with that idea and I even thought to elope and come back and have a party to celebrate with friends and family. But my finance is the one who wants to have a big wedding. We’ve been together so long I think our friends will understand that we are just celebrating our union theres no need for formalities. But he’s the youngest son, and his parents want to “see” him get married. I don’t have parents and my siblings and I aren’t that close so to do it the traditional way just doesn’t suit my side of the wedding-which plays a part in my reluctance.
Post # 5
I think that if he wants the big wedding, he can be the one to plan it. 😀
Post # 6
i think once he sees how much everything costs, he might start leaning towards your ideas more 😉
show him what venues, photographers, dresses, etc etc cost and then ask what he wants.