(Closed) it's all about compromise. right?

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 4
1523 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@wisher558:  Can you show us a pic of your color scheme and a pic of the suits?

Post # 5
705 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

One thing about the wedding I couldn’t override my fi on–his and his groomsmens attire. He felt it was the only thing he really had control of…

Post # 6
2605 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

What color is it? If it’s the same color you wanted but in a different shade, you should really just let it go. Ultimately, even if it is a totally different color, it really, truly doesn’t matter. Unless it’s like hot pink with zebra stripes. Then it might!

Post # 8
3082 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@wisher558:  oh. That’s annoying. I find that men don’t really have the same eye for colors as we do (not all, but most of the men I know). Is he really not budging on this issue? That sucks. It sounds different. How come they didn’t have those suits? Is there any way you can order the original ones?

ETA: I would be annoyed too, but I’m a bit of a control freak. Thankfully, my fiancé knows this and we are going together to pick it out (and get the contract all written out), then he will go with the guys to get fitted alone. But my fiancé is well aware of the fact that I care about these little details more than he does and he’s fine with going what I want (within reason). 

Post # 9
924 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

My Fiance is half Scottish and wants to wear a kilt.

I don’t like tartan, and I don’t like kilts.  

Unfortunately Fiance seems to have inherited his taste in clothes from his mother – he has none.  Most of his wardrobe when I met him 4 years ago was various shades of muddy brown, and lots of checks (which I also dislike).

I’m hoping if we get to marry on a beach, he will come to the conclusion himself that a kilt will be out of place.  Otherwise I will only be looking at him from the waist up for the whole day!

You might have to let this one go.  

Post # 12
7285 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

If he’s got to wear it, he picks the color. Let it go. 

Post # 13
7561 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

Silent treatment over a man wanting to choose his own outfit? Yikes! 

Post # 15
138 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@wisher558:  guys dont understand. however i think you should just give him this one and just let it go. its not worth the frustration and stress.

Post # 16
6597 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

Pick your battles! In this situation I would let it go. And these are the reasons:

  1. Would you want him to be involved in the choosing of your dress? Would you be happy if he wanted you to change the dress after you fell in love with one?
  2. I can promise you that on your wedding day, when you are at the beginning of the aisle staring at the love of your life you will not even NOTICE what he is wearing.
  3. No one will care or even NOTICE if the guys suits are part of your colour scheme or not. Furthermore, I bet you most people won’t even be able to tell you your colour scheme two weeks after your wedding.

He is engaged and enjoying making wedding decisions – I would take that as a win!


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