(Closed) Its all falling apart now :(

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

why don’t you have a JOP ceremony in a park or something??? And I know this doesn’t sound like your ideal plan, but you could have a courthouse wedding and then go ahead with your reception as planned!

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

can you have the ceremony in the same hall as the reception?

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Oh, no!  I wish your church had given you more notice.

Would it be possible to have your pastor officiate at an outdoor ceremony?  Is there an Elks Lodge or VFW Hall that you might be able to use?

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Awww…that really sucks! I’m sorry you are having to deal with this so close to the big day! I am not really sure if I have that great of advice here, but have you thought about doing it at another venue aside from a church. I mean, clearly you have had your heart set on getting married in a church, but maybe consider an outdoor venue like a park or backyard space. Usually those are really cheap, if not free. My budget is about the same as yours, so I definitely understand the struggle you are facing to make the numbers crunch. Another possibility would be to cut somewhere else in the budget in order to accommodate the cost of another more expensive church. Have you considered DIYing your own flowers? If you aren’t already, I know that can cut a budget a lot. I am making all of my own. It won’t be as great as if a florist did it, but it’s worth it to be able to spend that money elsewhere.

Best of luck to you!!! I’m sure you’ll figure it out πŸ™‚

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

what’s happening with the church after your church moves? Will it change ownership? Will it be demolished? I would find out and talk to the powers that be to see if you can still have it there, even if your church moves. You’d be surprised how far “but I’ve always dreamed of having my wedding here” goes! Even if it’s a new owner, certainly they could spare 1-2 hours to let you have your dream, no?

Keep your eyes on the prize and move through the obstacles. Don’t give up!

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Well, I don’t know much about how churches work, but isn’t the whole thing about religion being kind and caring to others (amoungst other things that is)?

Can’t you just go in and talk to the pastor of another church and explain the situation? If they truly believe in religion, couldn’t they find it in their heart to let you do it there for the budget you have? Maybe they will let you pay it off after the wedding too?

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

What about a backyard? As long as it is just the ceremony it shouldn’t cost too much to rent chairs, and although it might not look the nicest the local VFW hall or somewhere might be able to let you borrow the chairs. Even though your church isn’t available your Pastor should still be available and he could do it in the backyard, that way you wouldn’t need the JOP that your church doesn’t allow.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@bunnyfoofoo: totally agree with you! If the church isn’t being demolished, then I dont see why you couldn’t still have the ceremony there?? Everyone has a sister/wife/daughter/friend and knows how special a wedding is. If it were me, I would be nice but reiterate how important this day/place/time is to you, not to mention invites are out, everything else is booked and you are soooo excited. Might work wonders πŸ˜‰ GOOD LUCK!!!

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Would your pastor be willing to talk to the pastor of another church in your area, and try to work out an arrangement? My experience with church leaders is they are 1) very accommodating to eachother as a professional courtesy and 2) supportive of marriage in church. If not, and if your church takes possession of their new building before your wedding, discuss your financial situation with your pastor during one of your pre-marital counseling sessions and let him know you would be willing to have your ceremony performed in the new location even if it means the paint isn’t yet dry.

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