(Closed) It's Almost Here…. but I'm feeling really sad and Frustrated! :-(

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Not just to yourself! I read it! Hope it all works out hun 🙂

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

Aww waiting is hard! That also sucks that your dad is treating your boyfriend like that…maybe your mom or another family member could talk to him about it if you aren’t comfortable telling him to knock it off?

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

You know the proposal is coming and he’s given your dad multiple chances to meet up. Either have him talk to your Mom instead (because she can give a blessing just as much as Dad) or tell Dad he had his chance and he blew it.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@echolove:  I think your Boyfriend or Best Friend should just go to your parents house and ask.  OR – just call your Mom instead and ask her.  He’s tried and your old man is blowing him off (I don’t think your Dad is doing this intentionally – clearly, he doesn’t yet know the importance of this little chat!) so your Boyfriend or Best Friend needs to work some other alternatives!  Good luck!

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I think you should just have your boyfriend ask your mom… If your dad is going to play games with your bf when he’s being serious, then it’s his own fault if he doesn’t get asked! Or you could always just tell your dad it’s really important. Do you think he’s guessed why your bf is being so persitent and just doesn’t want to lose you? Maybe he thinks of you as a little girl still and wants to put of the inevitable… Dad’s can be weird. At any rate, his immaturity shouldn’t cause you to wait on your life, and at some point it’s hurt his feelings by not asking his permission, or hurt his feelings by not telling him about your move until the last minute…

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

((HUGS))

I don’t think that you’re Dad is bing difficult, he’s nervous! Well, it seems like that to me anyways. I’m sure he has a good feeling this is coming and from what you said here, he may be just as nervous as your SO! Think about it: your parents don’t talk so much (according to this post), he isn’t seeing someone, and he adores you. Sounds like the making of a nervous Dad that isn’t quite ready to face some big changes in your life. I’m a huge Dad’s girl and I don’t even know what the heck he’ll think when the day comes, but lets just say he won’t be giving any speechs on the special day because he’d be a blabbering mess.

 
Maybe you should call your Dad and just initiate a lunch with all three of you, and then you conveniently have to run an errand at the last minute? Wink

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

@echolove:  First off, just re-read my post… Sorry about the grammar issues! Long day and I was tired! But as difficult as this must be for your dad, you can’t take the burden of his emotions during this transition; this should be something joyful for you! I don’t think completely disregarding him is the right answer, but don’t let him be the one thing holding you two back from moving forward. If all else fails, maybe you and he need to sit down and have a heart to heart about your plans for the future. It may not be the most traditional way of broaching the topic of getting married, but it might be helpful to let him know that this is what you want, and that you will include him in the process. Maybe after that, you can ask if he’ll give your SO a chance to sit down and have a conversation with him as well in which he could ask for your father’s blessing.

Good luck and let us know how it goes!

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

@echolove:  Oh that would be really frustrating if my dad did that! But I do agree with PP that your dad seems like he is a little nervous for the change. He probably knows what is coming! My dad was excited, he even told my fiance “She’s yours now!! You take her!” (Jokingly of course but still!)

It sounds like it’s going to happen really soon so just try to be as patient as possible (easier said than done, I know…)

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