(Closed) It's been 4 hours and people are already complaining.

posted 12 months ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 31
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109 posts
Blushing bee

Also – maybe you should rethink your friends. If they’re constantly doing this to you, then don’t invite them anymore. I’m okay with people who are busy and can’t come, but if they say they’re coming and they don’t, then it’s a waste of time. No time for people like that.

Post # 35
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2477 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

snpmarin :  Wow you seem like  a piece of work. Not to be rude but why do you think you’re so special that people need to suck it up for your wedding? You could elope and just have the two of you there but here you are bitching and moaning about how your guests are bitching and moaning.  You are really speaking as if you’re doing someone a favor by inviting them to your wedding. Weddings are for you not for other people. If you feel truly feel nonchalant about your guests as you’re coming off on here I can see why you’ve been stood up so many times. There’s  a few people I know in real life that sound just like you but can’t seem to understand why people don’t attend their events. Your attitude is the first hint. 

Post # 36
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362 posts
Helper bee

If you think your friends and fam are flaky don’t invite them then. And if they’re being rude, then just elope and have a party afterwards. Do you think people give a damn? Of course if its a 3.5 hour drive people would bitch and moan, you say that staying over is optional, but who wants to drive home for 3.5 hours after a wedding?? So even though you say accomodations lodging are optional, it really isn’t so you’re being very clueless or dense or insincere. If its too difficult and people flake on you a lot (it seems like) maybe they don’t really care for your hospitality or lack thereof and think of it as a chore to go to your events.

Post # 38
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2477 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

julies1949 :  but this theory holds no weight because they can still say yes and then not actually show up. Saying yes doesn’t legally bind them or guarantee anything so OPs reasoning is flawed. I went to a wedding that was 6 hrs away from where I lived and also a lot of the friends the bride and groom invited. They had several empty tables for people who RSVP’D and still didn’t show up. Their wedding was very beautiful and at an expensive venue near San Francisco and Dh and I got a hotel and stayed 2 nights but they didn’t have anywhere near the poor attitude OP had towards her friends. At the end of the day there’s no guarantees RSVP or not. With the info given here idk why OP doesn’t just elope. 

Post # 40
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2477 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

snpmarin :  Umm no. Not the kind of privilege you seem to think. At least in my opinion. Are you the Queen of England? If you were I would definitely consider it an honor. 

Post # 42
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47187 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

DoubleD :  I didn’t say that I agreed with her theory, or that it would work, just that she is actually NOT trying to discourage people from attending.

I agree that some people are a piece of work, but in this case, I don’t think it’s the OP.

Post # 45
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2477 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

snpmarin :  maybe their commute to their paycheck means more than money they have to come out of pocket with for a wedding. Does that make sense to you? I’m thinking you might have an overzealous sense of self or you’re being voluntarily obtuse acting like your wedding is the most important thing ever.  Honestly bee it’s very off putting. It might be why people in your real life respond to you a certain way. I don’t mean that in a snarky way. I just keep reading your updates and none of them sound like a down to earth response. It seems like it’s all about you and if people don’t like it then eff them. 

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