Post # 1
Earlier this week, I asked to be added to the waiting list. Since then, My guy has talked about buying another special firearm (about $600), two people I know have gotten engaged, and there is a big load of drama at work with a pregnant and engaged co-worker.
I know that my guy adores me and wants to spend the rest of his life with me. I understand we may have to wait to get married until he gets to where he wants to be in his career. That makes sense and is fine. What upsets me is that as many times as i have told him why it upsets me when he buys things like that, he still does it! I have explained time and time again, “It makes me feel less important when you say you can’t afford a ring (mine that I’ve chosen is VERY inexpensive), but you can spend twice as much on a thing that has absolutely no sentimental significance to you or I.” I apparently hasn’t gotten through. Then, lo and behold I hear two engagement stories of high school peers…. and my pregnant co-worker asks me when my boyfriend and I are strating a family….. “Ummm… not for a long time… we aren’t even living together.”
Post # 3
What does he say when you tell him your ring is significantly less than his toys?
Post # 4
That blows! Sorry you are having such a crappy ‘waiting’ week. My SO spent $1,500 on a new tv about 6 months ago…really!!? It was for our house so it’s great to have an awesome tv….but damn, Im sure there are some nice $500 tv’s out there!! UGH…hope next week is much better for you!!
Post # 5
I’m sorry to hear that. I’m going through something similar right now with my SO, so I feel ya. I hope that you guys work things out soon. (While we’re throwing numbers around, mine spent $22,000 on a BOAT this summer… that was a hard one to swallow)
Post # 6
I’m so sorry you’re having such a bad waiting week. The ups and downs of this time in our relationship really sucks.
Hope it gets better! *Hugs*
Post # 7
Sorry your having a bad waiting week – I know we have all been there. My SO bought himself a new bike about the same time he started paying for my ring.. you can guess that his bike was about double the cost of the e-ring :/
Just to think if he held off on his bike a couple of months my ring could be bought and paid for.. oh well – his bike had a flat tyre this week (must be karma! muahaha!)
Keep busy and be happy, your proposal is not far away I am sure 🙂
Post # 8
Feeling you! I think men don’t correlate their hobbys with money that could be spent elsewhere, like its a separate “fun” fund and not the serious “saving for a ring” fund. Sorry you’re having a bad week.
Post # 9
@claireos: He says something to the effect “I’m sorry I’ve made you wait so long.” and it never gets any deeper than that. ONE time he said “My grandpa told me to have fun while I’m young … blah blah,” but his grandpa even calls me his wife…. so idk. its really annoying though.
Post # 10
Thanks ladies for the support. I know it will happen eventually, I just feel like im out of the “OMG ” phase to “OthankGod” phase. I mean, We’ve talked about out future together since our first year together…. and now here I am in year 5 going on 6 still with no proposal.
Post # 11
Bf just bought an electric guitar. I actually loaned him some of the money for it with the condition that he pays me back ASAP and he gets me whatever I want for Christmas (I know I won’t be getting what I really want it’s just fun to mess with him sometimes lol) It gets annoying when he spends more money on himself than a ring would cost but it is his money and I can’t control what he does with it.