Post # 1
Since we found out my father-in-law had passed away. I never thought I’d have to go through this type of pain with my Fiance. I remember reading two posts a few months ago from two other Brides on here regarding the death of thier future husbands’ father. I felt bad for them but I couldn’t imagine what they were both going through. Now I know. It’s definitely a pain you can not take away. Reason why we picked this year to get married was b/c we knew where his father was living. (Mom and dad have been divorced for many years and Dad was always bouncing around from place to place.) I try to be strong for him as he’s always been the stronger one. But I find myself breaking down. It hurts to see the one you love cry every night knowing that you can’t do anything about it. He and his sisters went through his dad’s stuff today and as strong as he tried to be for his younger sisters you can tell it was really hard for him to pack his dad’s stuff up. I totally understand why it’s hard. I’m bracing myself for the state he’s going to be in when we have the actual ceremony. His dad was suppose to come visit us the weekend before he passed. It was his granddaughter’s birthday weekend (FI’s sister’s kid.) Fiance keeps thinking what might have been had he let him come visit us earlier. Thanks for listening guys!
Post # 3
Oh honey! I’m so sorry to hear this! I can only imagine the damper this must put on things. Sounds like you are trying your hardest to be there for your Fiance, which is all you can do. And as one of my favorite quotes says… At the end of the day, the fact that we still have the courage to still be standing, is reason enough to celebrate. Good luck and you, your Fiance and your families are in my thoughts!
Post # 4
I’m soooo sorry to hear this. It’s an experience I wouldn’t wish on my worst enemy. I lost my father over 4 years ago and my hubby is coming up on the two year anniversary of his mom’s passing. So we’ve been there. I still cry myself to sleep sometimes.
I know you are feeling helpless – but just being there to hold your fiance is HUGE! Listening to him vent, cry, tell stories, mourn. However he chooses to work through this – just be by his side 🙂 When hubby’s mom passed – I defintely did more crying than him. I still do to this day. That’s ok too 🙂 No need to be the ‘strong’ one. Mourn together and cling to each other 🙂 I won’t say it gets easier – but with time is does become different. If that makes any sense.
Your wedding day will be hard. Really hard. It will also be beautiful and magically – just like you’ve planned. You’ll miss his dad a ton. But you’ll also be surrounded by so many friends and family wishing you joy & happiness.
My thoughts are with you guys!!
Post # 5
I’m so sorry you have to go through this. It sounds like you’re doing everything right… your fiance is lucky he has you 🙂
My thoughts are with you, continue to stay strong and grieve with him- it is natural to be sad. You will get through this, my thoughts are with you.
Post # 6
*knock on wood* I haven’t had any deaths on my side of the family so when I got the news I was completely numb and did not know what to say or do with myself. I’m there for him when he needs a big hug and a kiss. But lately he’s been hugging me a lot tighter… like a bone crushing hug Gosh I cried when my parents moved away over 3yrs ago… and it’s only a little over an hr drive! But when you’re used to seeing each other every single day to maybe once a week or even once a month it just plain sucks! The good thing that came out of it is that my parents and I are way closer now then we’ve ever been. Ok, a little off topic. Ha! Thanks again ladies <=0)