(Closed) It's Been Posted Before.. But: UNINVITED GUESTS RSVPing YES??

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
2233 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Yes you most certainly can tell them that they were not invited. You’re not un-inviting them, they were never invited in the first place. 

I am so lucky that we didn’t have this issue but I was fully prepared to call the offenders and tell them: I’m so sorry but due to budget and space constraints we’re unable to accommodate the extra people. I hope you understand.

I know some people will say that anyone single gets a plus one (got an earful about it from a family member) but screw them. Unless they’re paying, who you invite is your business and your business only!

Post # 4
1622 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Totally agreed.  Unfortunately, the best way to deal with this is head on: call each of the “offenders” and make it clear that unfortunately you needed to keep the guest list under control etc etc etc and that you’d love for them to attend but that you can’t accomodate additional people.

Post # 5
828 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

You’re not in the wrong here, they are. It might not be the most fun task, but those peoplesimply aren’t invited and it was rude of your guests to presume that they could add to your guest list.

Post # 6
2254 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I agree with the PP above. Definitely call them ASAP to correct this issue. You don’t want to have to deal with this after people start claiming they took off time for work or bought their plane tickets etc. 

Post # 7
2699 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

+1 to all the above responses. These threads always tick me off. Weddings are expensive. People know that. It’s therefore rude to add significantly to the expense by inviting others not on the invite. Just call up and clarify. You don’t even owe them an explanation, just “I’m sorry but we can’t accomodate more than those on the invite”. If they can’t then come, then they can’t come.

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