(Closed) "It's for a birthday, not a wedding??" Pic-heavy!

posted 6 years ago in Food
  • poll: Should I not mention it's for a wedding/elopement?
    Don't mention it. : (35 votes)
    66 %
    Just be honest. They'll figure it out and charge you anyway. : (18 votes)
    34 %
  • Post # 3
    5271 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2009

    Why not just say its for her birthday – whats the worse that could happen? 

    Also, becuse it is going to be so small, I think it will be fine. 

    Post # 4
    3374 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    My cake baker didn’t charge more for wedding cakes. Normally it’s the detail that goes into a cake that requires the higher price.

    Post # 6
    664 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    Go for it!

    Post # 7
    6221 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

    why not? but generally a cake baker probably won’t charge more for a wedding cake than an equally intricate cake for another occaison.

    Post # 8
    6221 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

    to address your poll options- I don’t think they would find out

    Post # 9
    9139 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

    They will only figure it out if they deliver the cake and with a two tier cake I say to have someone you know pick it from the bakery.  Call it an anniversary cake or grandma’s birthday cake.  Yes, most bakers do charge more for wedding cakes in general due to the intricacy of the design and the cost of dealing with bridezillas who want the “perfect” wedding cake (we all pay for the crazy ones that complain about everything.)

    Post # 10
    3471 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA

    I just told all my vendors “private party” until I had a price– once they gave me a quote, I told them it was for a wedding. 

    Post # 11
    1399 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    We said “a party” when booking our venue (sailboat) and some other things. Go for it. A lot of places do charge much more for a wedding.

    Post # 12
    1856 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    I think it depends on the bakery. The place we did our tasting typically charged $6/person for a wedding cake, which for our wedding size would have been about $120. When I explained what we were actually looking for (less formal, less intricate, no fondant), she told us she would charge us the ‘special events’ cake price, which was $55 for a cake to feed 20. Some people are just honest in their work, but it can go either way.

    Post # 13
    5001 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    They’re not going to charge more. If you think it’s too expensive, negotatiate and/or find somewhere else. 

    Post # 14
    4352 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I love the first cake. I say go for it.

    Post # 15
    11747 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I think you should be honest about it. If they don’t explicitly ask what it’s for, there is no need to tell them. If they do though you shouldn’t lie. You’ll only look bad if/when (most likely when) they find out.

    I highly doubt you’ll be charged more for a small wedding cake as you would for the same cake that was for a birthday. You will be charged more for all the intricate detail though.

    Post # 16
    6123 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Not all places add $$$ when you say wedding though.  You could always ask for a list of prices which usually consists of the cake diameter/price and/or # of tiers.  Then you can guestimate the cost from there.


    I think it’s lovely for an intimate wedding (proper term for your event!)


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