- 9 years ago
- Wedding: August 2010
My family is small so small. Growing up I was not allowed to contact my grandparents that were alive or any of my aunts/uncles or cousins because my mom does not like her family. I have contacted them since then. But mostly growing up it was my parents and two older half sisters and 3 younger siblings. The most heartbreaking part of this whole wedding planning is that my two older sisters are so unsupportive of anything with the words WEDDING or ENGAGEMENT when it comes to ME… now if its one of there friends its fine but since I’m there baby half sister getting married and they are divorced and never been married at 40 they are very unhappy and think its a terrible idea. I am in my 20’s and I guess when I got engaged last summer they never really thought it was happening but its now 4 days until my wedding and they are freaking out. Its been a crazy year with them being so unsupportive and my mom is very sick and can’t go to anywhere with me like the bridal store and my parents have no money at all so my sweet fiance and his family and I have worked to pay for everything modestly and its going to be beautiful but in my heart I still feel like I’m super bummed that my sisters are wishing my marriage to fail. They told everyone who came to our Christmas that the only reason I am marrying my fiance is so that we can have sex. This upset my very traditional dad. Then they made fun of the fact that I am excited to have a place where I can cook and clean. They said that if i wanted to do those things that I could come to there house to cook or clean. Whenever the wedding gets brought up in front of them they tell me they are going to need so much therapy to get over the fact that i am getting married. Recently my younger sister who is 16 and who is absolutely amazing and my best friend in the world babysat for them over the weekend. She came home and told me all weekend they asked her why I was marrying my fiance and that they thought I should just live with him and not marry him. In front of her they told all of there friends that I was to young to be getting married and that they are going to have to bring flasks to my wedding to make it through the pain of the day. The part that angered my younger sister so much was that they made a stab at her saying “she is to young to get married and this is her 16 year old maid of honor”. These two sisters are bridesmaids and they also told my younger sister that they feel that they have contributed nothing to this wedding and that they feel they are just showing up in there dresses and thats it……. but the thing is i don’t want them to contribute because that means i have to be around them and there marriage hating attitudes….. Anyways i have a little anxiety about them on my wedding day and just feel like i need support … anyone have a similar situation???