(Closed) It’s inappropriate, right??

posted 10 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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Helper bee

I think it’s common for moms to wear cream or off-white.  Or at least I know I’ve seen mother of the brides do that.  I don’t really see a problem with a white top and black skirt… it doesn’t sound like she’s trying to purposely steal your spotlight, and it’s not like she’s going to be mistaken for the bride

Does it really bother you, or do you just think it’s wrong in principle?

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

If she were wearing a formal white dress I’d think it was weird, but don’t really see a problem with the black skirt, white top.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I think it’s ok combined with a black skirt. I think it’s really the wearing of *all* white that’s inappropriate, or something that’s mostly white. Better than a floor length bright red dress, right? ; )

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

Since you can’t do anything about it, don’t stress yourself out about it. The addition of a black skirt de-bridalizes it in my opinion.

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

You should think about why she’s wearing it. Is she wearing the white to look bridal? And is she wearing the black to protest the wedding? (Which is why traditionally one wore black). Or does she think it looks nice?

If it really really bothers you, ask FH to please ask his mom to wear something else. Otherwise, let it go.

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

I’ve seen a lot of mom’s wear cream or off white. However, I’m pretty sure the correct ediquette is for the mom’s to clear their attire selection with the bride. 

Post # 9
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2008

I think it’s fine, especially with a black skirt.  I wouldn’t worry about it. 

Post # 10
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Newbee

Don’t stress… everyone will be looking at you, the beautiful bride, anyways…       I was a little worried about my flower girl because she wore white and I wore an ivory gold. None of the dresses at Davids bridal fit her so her mom just got a dress for her somewhere else. It ended up not being a big deal at all. No one even noticed.

Post # 12
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Worker bee

I think you are right to let it go. It sounds like you two are frustrated with each other– I hope you can work something out.

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2007

it seems pretty common in my culture for moms to wear ivory to the cermony, but whatever the case, it’s really hard to tell your Future Mother-In-Law what to wear without sounding like a brat if she doesn’t ask you for suggestions.

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2007

just for your amusement, but my cousin never figured out what the heck her Mother-In-Law meant when she said to someone, "Does [cousin] want me to wear black for the wedding?"  buh?  in any case, she ended up wearing a perfectly charmind sky blue suit.

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

If anything people will look at her and say what was she thinking. I wouldn’t worry about it, even though those are two colors that someone shouldn’t wear at a wedding unless it is a formal event. Don’t worry it is your day and if she wants to look inappropriate let her.

Post # 16
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

yea…i totally wouldnt worry about it at all! i thought you were going to say she was going to wear an all white gown haha. i dont know if you are worried about others wearing white or anything…but lots of people will just because its a common color. but you dont need to worry about anyone stealing your thunder. because its not possible. you will be the most beautiful girl there when its your day!

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