posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
213 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Wow so sorry your having to deal with them hun but i agree stick to your guns its your dream wedding. Maybe theyll come around and end up coming!

Post # 4
4046 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I feel ya! They are just being silly. It’s not like it’s Antarctica or something.

I hope they come around! A winter wonderland sounds reallly nice.

Post # 5
1810 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Aww that sucks. Stick with your plans though! If they want to miss out on your wedding day because they don’t want to buy a coat then thats on them. I know you’d miss them (if they didn’t come), but they’ll be the ones with regret and guilt not you. Especially since you are offering to pay for everything. Good luck and I hope it turns out just like you want it!

Post # 7
993 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

That was my dream but we live really far north so it will be blizzard season.  DO IT!  Get them heat lamos or serve hot chocolate in to go cups or something.  As long as they know ahead they should come around to the idea.  You will have AMAZING photos.  Where I’m from California cold is probably warm to us so I don’t think its a big deal unless its -30 or something.

Post # 8
88 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

easy, they are ridiculous and spoiled and think their bitching will change your mind.





send your invites. Whoever shows, shows. Whoever doesn’t doesnt. period.


f em.

Post # 10
10453 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

That sounds beautiful. I am having a winter wedding too, but indoors. Do you have a backup location indoors though in case it’s a raging blizzard or something?

Post # 11
5428 posts
Bee Keeper

I’d say go for it, it’s your wedding! I would go to a winter wonderland wedding if I ever was invited to one, I would just dress up for the occasion (winter coat, sweater, leggings, boots, then take all the bulk off when I get inside!) no big deal!

Post # 12
2295 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

What is the average high/low temp for that location in the mountains on the date of your wedding?

I’m torn here. I think you should be able to have a wedding you love, but an outdoors ceremony in the mountains in January seems a little extreme.

Now, I don’t know much about CA mountains. If the average high temp is 55 and you’re doing it at the peak time of the day, that’s fine! If the average high temp is in the low 40’s or you’re doing it at a non-peak time of day… well, I think you’re pushing it. ESPECIALLY for Californians who are used to more moderate temps. Putting a vision before guests’ comfort isn’t really a great way to throw a wonderful wedding.

I think you also run a very real risk that people will come unprepared in terms of clothing, because it would be very unusual to have a wedding outdoors in the snow. If you do do this, make it extremely clear on the invitations what they need to bring and what temps are likely to be/for how long.

So basically… need more info before I can tell if your family is being unreasonable or not. But if “everyone” is making comments, then I think there might be something to it.

Post # 13
2295 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Oh, and temps are definitely relative!! In the midwest, we are bundling up in the fall at 50 degrees but breaking out the shorts & flip flops in the spring. It’s all about what you’re used to. So if someone is used to 70 – 80 degree temps every day, 50 (or 40 or 30) truly might be uncomfortably cold for them.

I guess if there’s going to be snow everywhere, the temperature must be 32 or below…

Post # 14
4194 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

Is a coat really all that they’ll need? Wouldn’t your guests also need boots, gloves, a scarf and a hat? And are these items they’d only wear once?

I live a moderate climate, but I went to school in upstate NY, so I’ve dealt with SNOW, and I have to be honest-  if your guests don’t have proper cold gear, they are going to be miserable  sitting outside for 1/2 hour in the cold! I like NAvery’s idea of heat lamps, etc. People who aren’t used to snow/cold are going to a lot more affected by it.

Post # 15
1686 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

That sounds beautiful. (I still wish a winter wedding was workable with the rest of the stuff we want to do. :/ )

I agree with tfm. Just ignore the complaining and send your invites. The longer you wait, the longer they’ll feel like it’s open to negotiation, and the more annoying they’ll be about it. 

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