Post # 1
Hello Bees, sorry in advance for the rant but I’m sooooo annoyed right now!! I have a Winter Wonderland wedding so I REALLY REALLY REALLY want to get married up in the mountains. My family who lives here (California) refuses to attend because its gonna be “too cold.” I mean seriously??? You are going to be outside a MAXIMUM of thirty mins IF that and then you will go inside the cabin with awesome heating. I am paying for EVERYTHING for my family and they are the only ones complaing. Like seriously!!!!! I’m paying for lodging there food car everything. All they have to do is buy a coat thats all… I feel kind of hurt because they’ve said well we aren’t going that’s ridiculous just use fake snow or have someone throw fake snow. urrggghhhhhhh and the one complaining the most is the one whose wedding I’m planning for next summer. I mean you’d think she would be a little more grateful right??? well apparently not. I just wanna have my dream wedding and its there so close to my reach but everyone is trying to stand in the way. I mean yea I mean I’m not going to let THEM stop me from doing it but it still kinda hurts.
Post # 3
Wow so sorry your having to deal with them hun but i agree stick to your guns its your dream wedding. Maybe theyll come around and end up coming!
Post # 4
I feel ya! They are just being silly. It’s not like it’s Antarctica or something.
I hope they come around! A winter wonderland sounds reallly nice.
Post # 5
Aww that sucks. Stick with your plans though! If they want to miss out on your wedding day because they don’t want to buy a coat then thats on them. I know you’d miss them (if they didn’t come), but they’ll be the ones with regret and guilt not you. Especially since you are offering to pay for everything. Good luck and I hope it turns out just like you want it!
Post # 6
Thanks guys for reading i’m just feeling like i wanna rip off my own head
Post # 7
That was my dream but we live really far north so it will be blizzard season. DO IT! Get them heat lamos or serve hot chocolate in to go cups or something. As long as they know ahead they should come around to the idea. You will have AMAZING photos. Where I’m from California cold is probably warm to us so I don’t think its a big deal unless its -30 or something.
Post # 8
easy, they are ridiculous and spoiled and think their bitching will change your mind.
send your invites. Whoever shows, shows. Whoever doesn’t doesnt. period.
Post # 9
@tfm: thanks girl thats just how i’m feeling right now I just feel like not sending any invites to them muahahahaha
Post # 10
That sounds beautiful. I am having a winter wedding too, but indoors. Do you have a backup location indoors though in case it’s a raging blizzard or something?
Post # 11
I’d say go for it, it’s your wedding! I would go to a winter wonderland wedding if I ever was invited to one, I would just dress up for the occasion (winter coat, sweater, leggings, boots, then take all the bulk off when I get inside!) no big deal!
Post # 12
What is the average high/low temp for that location in the mountains on the date of your wedding?
I’m torn here. I think you should be able to have a wedding you love, but an outdoors ceremony in the mountains in January seems a little extreme.
Now, I don’t know much about CA mountains. If the average high temp is 55 and you’re doing it at the peak time of the day, that’s fine! If the average high temp is in the low 40’s or you’re doing it at a non-peak time of day… well, I think you’re pushing it. ESPECIALLY for Californians who are used to more moderate temps. Putting a vision before guests’ comfort isn’t really a great way to throw a wonderful wedding.
I think you also run a very real risk that people will come unprepared in terms of clothing, because it would be very unusual to have a wedding outdoors in the snow. If you do do this, make it extremely clear on the invitations what they need to bring and what temps are likely to be/for how long.
So basically… need more info before I can tell if your family is being unreasonable or not. But if “everyone” is making comments, then I think there might be something to it.
Post # 13
Oh, and temps are definitely relative!! In the midwest, we are bundling up in the fall at 50 degrees but breaking out the shorts & flip flops in the spring. It’s all about what you’re used to. So if someone is used to 70 – 80 degree temps every day, 50 (or 40 or 30) truly might be uncomfortably cold for them.
I guess if there’s going to be snow everywhere, the temperature must be 32 or below…
Post # 14
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
Is a coat really all that they’ll need? Wouldn’t your guests also need boots, gloves, a scarf and a hat? And are these items they’d only wear once?
I live a moderate climate, but I went to school in upstate NY, so I’ve dealt with SNOW, and I have to be honest- if your guests don’t have proper cold gear, they are going to be miserable sitting outside for 1/2 hour in the cold! I like NAvery’s idea of heat lamps, etc. People who aren’t used to snow/cold are going to a lot more affected by it.
Post # 15
That sounds beautiful. (I still wish a winter wedding was workable with the rest of the stuff we want to do. :/ )
I agree with tfm. Just ignore the complaining and send your invites. The longer you wait, the longer they’ll feel like it’s open to negotiation, and the more annoying they’ll be about it.
Post # 16
Ok so my entire family is from the East Coast (PA to be exact) they moved here and got a little bit comfortable with the heat. I keep telling everyone they don’t have to come. I mean seriously, I am going to have heat lamps
@rebwana: I am providing gloves, earmuffs/hats and scarves. I’m originally from the East coast so I have a ridiculous abundance.
I’m only doing a family and close friends and all of the kids are excited to go, my siblings are in their 30s and complaining. The ceremony isn’t even half an hour long. That was me exagerating. From the procession to our departure we would only be outside for 20 mins.