(Closed) …its just not for me.

posted 7 years ago in Photos/Videos
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

We don’t have a single engagement photo up in our house. Kinda makes me wonder why we took them 😛

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I felt the same way and would rather capture the rehersal dinner.  Every time I brought up that option to potential photographers they all sort of paused, and seemed reluctant to do it.  I didn’t understand the deal 1 hour engagement session, 1 hour at rehersal dinner.  Plus I thought it would be nice to have a relaxed setting to get a lot of family photos in addition to us.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Engagement photos are kind of cheesy, to be honest with you.

We had some taken because he offered it for free but they are horribly corny. We used one at our wedding for the card box but that’s it. I wouldn’t frame any of them for my wall or anything.

Having the photog at your rehearsal dinner instead is a FABULOUS idea. Wish I had thought of that! I got lucky and one of our friends brought his fancy camera so we do have some beautiful family pictures  from the evening. Wish we had even more.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

We did engagement photos b/c we think it is nice to have professional photos of ourselves that aren’t directly connected to the wedding.  You can do them however you want.  If your photographer suggests something you think is corny, or feel weird doing, you don’t have to do it.  If you just don’t like the idea though, I think having the rehearsal dinner pics is a great idea!

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Some photographers don’t want to work the night before a wedding because they’re getting ready for your wedding then. Usually the night before, they are charging all of their camera batteries & emptying out the memory cards & packing fresh flash batteries. If they use all the equipment the night before, than they may be a little rushed getting home, uploading everything, recharging & cleaning everything & then repacking it all & going to bed. Then working like crazy the next day. Some photogs go to sleep super early & if they had to stay up very late, they may not be as rested on the day of your wedding.

My photographer went to my rehearsal dinner & its hard to take people’s pics because most people are eating & don’t like to be photographed while eating. She was invited as a guest (not photog, but she still took pics). Sometimes the rehearsal dinner can be stressful/chaotic as well. Plus its a lot more work when you’re photographing amongst a group of people vs. having then entire attention of the bride & groom. At my rehearsal dinner, I didn’t want to be photographed while eating & I didn’t want to pose for pics, I wanted to hang out with my new family & my friends.

One of the points of the epics is so your photographer is accustomed to working with you BEFORE the wedding. Not just the day before. Its great because your photog will know how you react with each other plus the photog can study the images so on the wedding day, they know what to “look out for” & reposition you. In a way, its kinda like “practice” for your wedding pics. Every couple is different, different in style, if they “naturally pose”, etc. Most photogs add that built into their packages because it helps both you & the photog.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

We’re not doing engagement pictures either! We’re mostly not doing them because we’ve already done the Save-The-Date Cards (main reason I’d want them), and now we live 500 miles away from ‘home’, so taking a trip down just for e-pics just doesn’t seem reasonable.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Most of our photogs packages come with a 2 hour on location engagement shoot. My Fiance and I are not really photo shoot type of people. We are opting out of this session, but might consider getting a single photo done, since we do not have any professional photos of ourselves.

Post # 11
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

We never did them, I know lots of couples that didn’t.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Also, your epics don’t have to be posed. You & your Fiance could be in a field just talking or cuddling or playing around, you don’t have to be looking at the camera for the epics. One of my fav pics (at my wedding) was my Darling Husband gave me his jacket. I was cold & he took his jacket off & put it on me. It was so sweet & everytime I see that pic, I just love it. I’ve seen a lot of very cute epics just like that :).

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Some photographers might be nervous because the engagement photos are also an opportunity to get a feel for how your guys are in front of the camera and vice versa. When you look through the engagement photos ahead of time, it also gives you a chance to show the photographer the kinds of shots and angles you do and don’t like…

Subbing for the rehearsal dinner is a great idea!!! I love and am already very comfortable with my photograher, so that would have been an awesome option. Oh well. 🙂

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Just remembered one more thing:

I saw a thread on here a while back where someone was unhappy with their e-pics and switched photographers.  Another poster said that they were unhappy with their e-pics, but worked with their photographer to make sure that their expectations were met for their wedding, and they ended up being happy with their wedding pics. 

If these posters hadn’t had e-pics, they wouldn’t have known that they would be unhappy with the photographer’s photographs/style.  It’s better to knwo prior to the wedding so that you can change photogs or give your photog suggestions, rather than be unhappy with your wedding photos.  I assume that both couples met with the photogrpaher and looked at his/her work, but reacted differently when they were the subject of the pics.  Just something to consider.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

+1 to SERABELL. In addition to that, covering an event is a lot different than an engagement session. Covering events, especially in dimly lit dining areas that are typically used for rehearsal dinners is a lot different than spending an hour or two outside having a relaxed photoshoot with just the bride and groom to be. There is custom lighting to be set up and also moments and emotions to be captured and thus added responsbility associated with the event. For these reasons, portait and event coverage are two separate sets of pricing for me, so I personally would not agree to the swap. Just my two cents. 🙂

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