(Closed) It's like our lives are on hold. Vent.

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 17
146 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - The Crystal Ballroom at The Rice Hotel

@MaddieM:  I haven’t been waiting years like yourself, but I do understand. SO and I dated for a little over a month when he popped the question. 9 months later, he works 2 jobs just to make money for a ring. I tried to get him to use my grandmother’s ring, but like your man, he wants to make a grand guesture. My father has bent over backwards to take fantastic care of me and told SO to do the same. Its romantic and appreciate it, in turn I nurse his sore muscles at the end of the day.

Good luck and try to have patience, even when its hard 🙂 

Post # 18
1768 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 1997

@MaddieM:  “It’s like our lives are on hold.

It is, I would not put up with that. His actions say he does not want to marry you. I think he bought the ring to placate you and buy time. And it has!

Men who truely want to get married to a woman, propose without being prodded (or agree if they are asked!). I wouldn’t waste all my child bearing years. 6 yrs is waaay long enough.

Sorry hon.

Post # 20
1768 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 1997

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@MaddieM:   As he is 35 and you 27, dating for 7 years already, I definitely would not relocate without an actual imminent wedding date…. I agree with the others about a simple park  courthouse/justice of the peace…

I  hope you get what you want. I suspect he won’t propose/marry but hope I am wrong! Good luck!  Keep us posted.


Post # 21
929 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I’m not sure why some people are giving you such a hard time about this saying you should just go to the courthouse etc.. You DID say you would marry him tomorrow BUT you also said that a proper proposal with a ring was important to him. I say wait. This is actually going to make your relationship a billion times stronger. I know becuase my now fiance lost his job while we were dating. It’s an awful incertain and insanely stressful time in your relationship. Don’t rush into a courthouse wedding if that’s not what you want. Wait for him to get back on his feet and let him propose the way he wants to. You’ll both be happy and feel like you’ve come so far. These are the stories you’ll tell your children! I wish you both the best of luck!!

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