(Closed) It's my party and I'll cry if I want to

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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1019 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

think of all the movies where it seems that people forgot their birthday, but really they didn’t and its a big surprise.

OR better yet… think of 16 candles.

Try not to dwell 🙂

Post # 4
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11233 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I understand how you feel. I LOVE my birthday, and I’ve always wanted a big party or something done by someone else and…it’s never happened. Probably never will. We don’t have any money to do anything cool, plus we’re saving for the wedding and a house on one income. We’ll have brownies and ice cream with his dad and stepmom, and his mom will probably get me something and bake me a cake, but that’s it. It’s a bummer.

Post # 5
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47 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2013

The key is – your birthDAY is in two days…if you were posting a day after your birthday and they had forgotten, been uninterested I would understand, but its not even your birthday yet. At least give them chance. Of course your birthday will be important, but they dont have to get uber excited before the actual day.

What if they are planning a big surprise for you….?? You arent going to know that until the day!

is it a milestone birthday?? The world doesnt stop just because its your birthday…sorry I know that sounds harsh…people have to work if its a week day for example or even weekend depending on what job they do.

If it were me, I would be happy with a simple happy birthday on the day!

Post # 6
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5957 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

@LittleMusic:  I’m so sorry, I think every lady goes through this at least once in her life…mine was two years ago, and I nearly killed Mr. 99 over it, my birthday is New Year’s Day, which sounds awesome, but isn’t, because everyone is too tired and hung over to care about anything, especially me.  So that year Mr. 99 asked if we could just go watch football over at the folks house, since he was going to take me out to dinner, I said sure…but as the weeks wore on toward my birthday, the shittier I felt about it.  No one cared, no one was going to do anything about it, and I should just figure out a way to be happy.

So my birthday rolls around, we go to an unceremonious dinner at the Spaghetti Factory, I get up the next morning, my birthday, yay, and my sister calls to take me to lunch….I spend the whole time drinking margaritas and complaining about what a shitty husband I’ve got…she finally drags me, half drunk to the folks house, I walk in, about twenty people fly out and yell, “Surprise!” and there’s Mr. 99 standing there, with a huge grin and a pair of diamond earrings…I felt like such a tool!

It’s only when you’ve completely given up hope, that something so unexpected happens….does that mean it will?  Who knows?  But you can’t say it won’t either!

Post # 7
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1686 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I think birthdays are like weddings–yours is never going to be as important to other people as it is to you. 

I’m not going to try and sell you on the idea that people will surprise you with an awesome party just to try and make you feel better because that’s movies, not real life (eta: unless you are Nona :), and it would probably just set you up for more disappointment. I think you should decide what you want to do for your birthday, and do that. If what you want is a party, and nobody else is doing it, throw your own. Make your own awesome birthday.

I do think you should tell your Fiance that doing whatever you decided you want to do on your birthday is important to you. Sometimes we forget that other people can’t read our minds, and we feel like they should just know how we feel about something. And then we get mad at them when they don’t meet our secret expectations. So if you want him to make your birthday a priority, tell him that.

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