Post # 1
ok bit of rant post and I know I cant be the only one who feels this way but all my plans seem to be dismissed my my family and dfs mother. Started with the venue-we love the venue, we have booked this venue but all we got off family was, its so far away (1 hour away) it looks small (its is a boutique hotel but still has 80 rooms). My dress which I adore-his mom “Oh I dunno I wouldnt of put it on your shape” ok I let them go but now its with my flowers, my colours. We are having an October wedding and our colours are blue and yellow and our moms keep telling us there spring colours (we dont care). His mom is even on my case because Im growing my hair out so I can style it on the day, she doesnt get why people do that at weddings and I should wear my hair like I always do.
Dont get me started on the fact that the fact I want to wear blue shoes and have a brooch bouquet. I know its only small things but its getting the stage were Im not telling any one my plans because I get the look of ok. bridesmaids started last night on how they dont get why I want them to wear yellow shoes with the blue dresses but I set them straight. I just feel like I cant say anything to the moms. We are paying for the wedding ourselves and are both a bit quirky and want this to come out in our wedding but part of me hates the fact that they wont like it.
Rant over thank you
Post # 3
@DawnMarie: I think you have the right idea- just don’t share your ideas with them.
Post # 4
Ya its all I can do, keep the rest a surprise and if they dont like it I dont care:)
Post # 5
I think it sounds adorable, I love the blue + yellow combo!
Wedding planning brings out a lot of opinions from a lot of different people. When they start in on you, thank them for their input. Oh you don’t like the colors? Thank you for your input, but I think Fiance and I are pretty decided on the colors. You don’t like the venue? Thank you for your input but we are already settled on it.
Eventually they’ll see a trend of you politely declining and dismissing their opinions and hopefulyl take the hint!
Post # 6
I think our families don’t agree with us either. Do what you want. We caved a LOT and are starting to regret it as the wedding comes closer. We realized how much extra work we are going to have to put in to make everyone happy and it makes us unhappy. Don’t let it happen to you!
Post # 7
Like my Fiance told me, Its OUR wedding, we do wat we want, and whoever doesn’t like it can go kick rocks!!! The only 2 people (besides the officiant!) required to be there is the bride and groom.
Post # 8
Good for you for sticking to what you want!
Post # 9
It’s YOUR wedding and you are paying for it. Period. End of discussion. Did you go ariubd critiquing their wedding?, I think not. Learn to smile sweetly and turn a deaf ear. You are adult, have the wedding you want!
Post # 10
STICK WITH THE TITLE–IT WAS PERFECT!!! The wedding sounded quirky before you even called it that–it sounds great and everyone just needs to GET. OVER. IT.
I wouldn’t share your ideas with them, they clearly want this to be all about them and not YOU and your DF!
Post # 11
good for you for standing your ground!!!
Post # 12
We’re having similar problems, just with my family though. The bigger problem is that we are in London and our wedding is back home in New Zealand – so we are reliant on them for opinions on venues etc… FH’s parents will come back with glowing reports and mine will come back with holes to pick in EVERYTHING. And it has nothing to do with what we want, more to do with what is better for them (they want a venue closer to home for my nieces and nephews etc etc). It’s incredibly frustrating! I wish I had the same strength as you… working on it though.