(Closed) its never been this bad

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I can’t offer any advice, but I can offer bee hugs!

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2010 - Trinity Presbyterian Church/Harrison Opera House

If you’ve been feeling this way for a while, it may be more than pms.  Would you consider seeing a counselor or maybe a spiritual advisor that you trust?  All of these changes could be sparking anxiety and/or depressions, and it’s very natural to nedd to talk through some of these big life changes with a professional who is equipped to help.  I’ve gone through a few life changes before where I needed to see a counselor to help give me  perspective and come up with a useful plan for taking control of my thoughts and situation.  It’s completely normal to be anxious about the job situation and sad about some of the wedding things.  Take care of yourself!  You can get through this!

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

First off, deep breaths!  Hormones can do wicked things but they won’t last.  Go outside and get some fresh air and sunshine.  Light exercise can be really helpful too.  And yes, my pmsing has gotten worse as we get closer to the wedding. 

I’m sorry you lost your job, but you will find another one.  Keep trying and don’t lose hope!  Maybe tell the kennel that although you have other qualifications you’d really like to take a break from that and think you would be excellent at doing whatever they need done? 

It’s ok to take a nap, but make yourself get up and do something afterwards.  If you’re feeling worthless because you don’t have a job make keeping house, taking care of the dogs and finding new employment your full time job.  Between those three you ought to stay pretty busy. 

Keep your chin up and good luck!  It will all turn around soon.

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

Remember that EVERYTHING seems much worse than it actually is when you’re PMSing.  It’s possible you have PMDD – it’s kind of like a more severe PMS.  Make an appointment with your doctor and ask about the birth control Yaz.  Trust me when I say it’s a miracle worker 🙂

Try not to concentrate on all the things that are making you sad.  You’re marrying the love of your life in less than 2 months – you should be excited!  Staying positive right now is the best thing you can do.  Use your extra time to finish DIY projects for the big day, or revamp your resume and start looking for new jobs! 

Post # 8
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Helper bee

I’m sorry to hear that you’re going through this… everything that goes wrong always seems magnified when it’s happening around wedding planning time.  Talking to your fiance and to friends and family will help you cope with things, such as your family not being able to attend.  It’s hard not to take things personally when it comes to weddings and who will/will not be there, but try to focus on who will be there to celebrate with you and just figure that the others have other things on their plates, just as we all have at times.  Also, it’s a very trying ecomonic time and there’s lots of money involved around weddings so everyone’s feeling the squeeze.  Just continue with the job search and stay confident & have faith that you’ll find something and things will work themselves out.  After all, you’re not in this alone, you have your loving other half there to help you out & that in itself is someone and something to be very greatful about.  Keep your head up, I hope everything works out for you 🙂

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Awwwwww honey, here is a hug for you. I’m so sorry that you are feeling this way, I can definitely understand the stress of the wedding and to add job troubles on to that is even worse.

I completely understand the family thing, none of my family is coming to my bridal shower, and my grandparents, rsvp’d no without an explanation or a good luck of anything. It really does hurt your feelings, a day that means so much to us brides seems like nothing to other people.

I don’t say this to make you feel worse, but as one who struggles with it daily, do you think you could be depressed? The sadness and sleeping a lot are definitely warning signs, also increased stress can make it worse if you do. I suggest doing some type of physical activity every day, I know you don’t feel like it, but it does help, try to eat right, see your doctor if you feel like it,  they can give you medicine that will help.

Hang in there, believe me I’ve been there, things can and will get better. Will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee

(((((HUG))))))

Just wanted to offer a hug.  I’ve been in that boat.  “This too, shall pass”  is what my mom used to tell me.  I also advise you to see your doc and get the medical part checked out – after that, try to make your time productive – organize a drawer or work on a project, but keep yourself busy and try to stay positive.

Hang in there!

Post # 11
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Honey i know just how you feel. I feel the SAME things when it’s alomst that time of the month. I feel either very mad or very sad or just very irritated. i had to finally take a deep breathe and just look forward to better days. i do small things by meself just to make it easier, so that i don’t take it out on my fiance or boyz. Little things like work outs or doing my toes or hair. Sounds silly but it’s helping me.

 

Big Hugs 

 I hope you find something that makes it better for you.

Post # 12
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Blushing bee

r u pregnant?

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I’m so sorry!! (((((BIG HUGS)))))

Were you on Yaz by any chance? My friend was on it and her mood swings were so crazy! I don’t experience the crazy mood swings (I’m on it too) but my back pain right before my period is excrutiating. It almost feels as bad as when I get a UT. I think you should see a doctor too just in case.

I’m sure a lot of your sadness is depression. Even though you are planning your most important day, it really sucks for family not to be there and on top of that knowing that you are losing your job. I’m truly sorry. Just live one day at time and it WILL get better soon.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Wow!  That sounds like a very productive day!  I’d say you’re on your way back up.  Well done!

Post # 16
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Busy bee

Hey, I don’t have advice (although boy, I have been there but it seems to have gotten better just as I’m getting to be an old lady now) but I just wanted to send you some hugs.

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