(Closed) “It’s not a small wedding, we’re just not inviting you…”

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
2849 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

You could say something like, “We are only able to accomodate close family and friends.” For some people, that is 200 people. They don’t need to know the size of the wedding. 

Post # 4
96 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

What specifically are they saying? I think you could get away with something about the guest list isn’t final yet or maybe your still considering the size of the venue and how many people will fit. But in the end, people who don’t get an invite might still ask you after the wedding (or right before it) why they didn’t get one and then you might have to answer that a little differently.

Post # 5
1199 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@MissBananaBread: “Our venue is restricting the size of our guest list.”  Which could mean that there isn’t enough space, but in my case, we just don’t want to pay the extra price pp which limits how many people we are willing to invite.  People will probably interpret it as the first explanation.

I have this problem as well!

Post # 6
1335 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Kempinski San Lawrenz, Gozo

could you just say you have a limited guest list? You wouldn’t be lying if you said that…

Post # 7
4803 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

You don’t have to say it’s small, simply saying something about how you wish you could invite absolutely everyone, but you were limited based on budget/space restrictions/whatever.

Post # 8
939 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

To me, “small” is relative.  If you easily have 500 people you want to invite and choose to only have 200, then yes you’re having a “small” wedding. Most people won’t interpret it that way, but that’s how i would convince myself that my wedding is small.

Post # 9
4336 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I wouldn’t have a problem saying “small…” If you’re not inviting the whole city (them included!) then sure, why can’t it be “small?” (it’s relative.)

Post # 10
6661 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

I think you can still get away with saying it’s going to be a small wedding. You don’t have to elaborate or explain what ‘small’ means, as long as you’re making cuts to the guest list, it counts as small!

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