(Closed) its not even nickle and dime me to death. help! i cant do it anymore!!!

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
1088 posts
Bumble bee

@danymarie: I’m sorry 🙁 if you don’t mind me asking where is your wedding taking place ? such as city or state? I feel like 10 grand should be enough because here in utah things are cheaper I guess and 10 thousand would go along way..

please don’t think of your wedding as tacky. it’s your day and it’ll be special no matter what. the times I get stressed I just think of the man I’m marrying and that the wedding is really just about him and I and it makes me feel so much better!

please cheer up and best of luck to you with all the planning.

Post # 5
8146 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

we’re in NJ and after looking at the cost of rentals im completely shocked too!  we’re looking in venues a lot more now. tables at $12 a piece, tent at $600, tent walls at $100 a piece, chairs at $2.25 a piece, heater for $250 and then all the linens and napkins, plates, cups and silverware.  i feel your pain honey!!  it was getting to be too much. we cut out a DJ, and my friend is our Photog.  Try and find a venue that supplies things, or maybe try cutting the guest list?   I’m sorry, i really do understand!

Post # 6
70 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Yes first cheer up. It will be okay. Where is your reception at? It is somewhere you have to rent everything separate? And like dannymarie said maybe it is the area. However I would look around more. I live in the Cleveland OH area and I found some REALLY expensive places but also reasonable. We are having it at a beautiful country club for around $60 a person which includes the bar, linens etc.. So maybe you can research some more places? You have some time. But regarless of where you have it or what you have it will be beautiful because it is your wedding. It is not what you have but who you have there!

Post # 7
1542 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I’m sorry you’re feelig this way, but something a bit of decoration can make thiks look really tasteful. I don’t think plastic neccesarily says tacky, maybe you could look for some affordable DIY decorations. Is the place you live in expensive, cause that sounds a lot for chairs. =S

Post # 8
4887 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Sometimes when you piece everything together it adds up WAY faster than an all-inclusive (or somewhat packaged) deal.  Aren’t there any options near you that can roll the experience up into one price so you don’t have to pay for this, pay for that?  

Post # 9
4887 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Also, can you please tell us how many people you’re inviting?  

Post # 10
14486 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@KristenGotMarried: I agree. 

Is there a venue option you can use instead?  I tried to piece together my wedding also hoping I could get a better price on catering to offset all inclusive venue prices, but by the time everythign was added up AND the extra work and coordination, it just wasnt worth it anymore.  My friend tried to do a backyard reception at his own house thinking he could save money, and with chairs, tables, dance floor, caterer, server, plates, utensils, every little thing… it was more work for about the same cost as an inclusive venue and he scraped the idea and went for the venue.

Post # 11
5786 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

@KristenGotMarried: This. We talked about doing a tent on the beach but bringing in everything ourselves got really expensive really quickly.

Do you want to be on the water? You can save a ton of money by getting away from the beach.

Post # 12
113 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@danymarie: If you can try hunting some more for a different venue, maybe try a few towns over? I felt the same way as you but with a much smaller budget until I found a church hall for 250 and that included a kitchen, round tables, chairs etc. From there I spent a long time pricing and ended up ordering chair covers from efavormart and also some cute looking plastic champane glasses. I will have clear plastic plates and cups but I think it will look great when its done! Consider having it outside in a park area if possible or ask venues if they can cut you a deal since novemeber is off season (I think..?)

Also look around for firehalls some of the ones up here are really fancy and not very expensive.

Post # 13
1327 posts
Bumble bee

Cut your guest list it will help big time, it is better to have a small classy wedding then a huge tacky one.

Post # 14
415 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I totally feel your pain, but take a deep breath, you’ll figure it out!  What kind of venue are you using?  Did you already put down a deposit on it?  How many people are you having?  The #1 way to have the wedding you want for less money is to invite less people.  If it’s too late or that’s not a choice, then look at venue cost, catering and alcohol.  This is where the bulk of a wedding budget is spent, so cutting out flowers or a DJ isn’t enough on its own.

What is your dream wedding?

Post # 15
2239 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@danymarie: Honestly I don’t think that’s too outrageous for chairs. We paid about 375 to rent 60 chairs for less than two hours. It ended up costing that much because of the setup/takedown cost. What type of wedding are you trying to have? We had a really nice wedding for about 10,000 not including rehearsal dinner or our rings…and that was with spending around 3300 on photography and it was a nighttime dinner reception. I did a lot of DIY stuff…but our wedding is going to be featured in a magazine next year so I have faith you can throw a really nice wedding on your budget. If you let us know more details about your wedding we can probably give you more tips!

Post # 16
752 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

It’s ok…I know it’s tough.  I purchased by own plastic fancy look-a-like silverware and look-a-like china plates.  It saved a ton of $$ to do it myself.  I also purchased my own linens and dress off of craigslist.  I did my own make up and my matron of honor did my hair.

Can you shop around to other rental vendors?  Some don’t charge so many set up fees.  You need to get all of that so you know you are comparing apples to apples with pricing.

I also agree that you may want to consider cutting your guest list.  It’ll save $$ all around. 

YOU CAN DO IT!!!  *hugs*

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