(Closed) its not even nickle and dime me to death. help! i cant do it anymore!!!

posted 10 years ago in Emotional
Post # 17
279 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Your wedding isn’t until 2014.  Shouldn’t you be able save more than $10000 by then for the dream wedding you want? 

Post # 18
3230 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I would say look for a different venue – I looked FOREVER until I found one w/in our budget that supplied the chairs & tables and it was included in the initial rental price. Also this venue allowed us to bring in our own caterer & alcohol. These venues exsist, but you do have to do ALOT of research.

Post # 19
96 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Hold the reception at a restaurant — then maybe things like chair rentals, place settings, etc…. won’t be an issue.

Post # 21
3572 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

If your venue already has chairs then why are you renting chairs?

Post # 25
538 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

When we were putting together rental stuff for my best friend, we found that in a lot of cases it was cheaper to buy things than rent ($1 per person for plastics and disposables?  You can easily get that halfed if you buy your own disposables).  You can even get on Craigslist and try and buy flatware for less money, though it’s probably a long shot.  You can really class up disposables, especially if you’re only having 50 people.  You can do a lot of DIY projects, like fabric pockets to tuck the cutlery into.  You could even go with compostable/biodegradable disposables and leave a little note on each table that you and your Fiance feel that pollution is an important issue so you have opted to use biodegradable things.  You can find cheap products by a simple “eco disposable” or “wooden eco cutlery.”  

Was it in your contract that you could not leave things overnight?  You might be able to argue with them.

Are there any rental companies that have slightly more expensive chairs but with no ridiculous same-day pick-up charge?  Try and haggle if you can, too…ask if they can waive or halve the fee and say it’s the only way you can rent with them.  If you’re not good at haggling, tag in a friend who is.  If they know they can walk on you, they will.

Did you sign a contract with a caterer yet?  If not, re-evaluate your menu and try to go cheaper, or find a cheaper caterer.  Or is that included with the venue?

It’s going to sound cheap but I got a beautiful dress originally worth $780 at David’s Bridal during their $99 dress sale.  It’s almost the new season so they’re probably going to have a sale soon; it’s worth a shot, but they’re going to try and push add-ons so don’t let them.

Team up with friends, especially your bridesmaids.  Get them deal-hunting.  It’s overwhelming to go it alone.

Most importantly: You are marrying the love of your life.  That’s incredible.  Few people are so lucky.  In five years, it won’t matter to you that you had disposable dishes.  It will matter that you’ve got an awesome life partner.  You have secured the most important part of the day.

Post # 26
31 posts
  • Wedding: September 2012

my best friend got married last year and had styrofoam plates and plastic silverware. We used really nice napkins and ribbon and it looked nice. No one really cared because the food was good. I doubt most people go look at this plate how beautiful!!!!

She also choose food that would go with her plates meaning I would not serve steak on styrofoam plates but bbq would be fitting

Look at resteraunt supply stores in your area you might be surprised at the deals you get… if you pick something else simple you can resell it. Go to the salvation army and pick up mix match plates I know by me that plates sell for about one dollar each there. Also check out garage sales yard sales etc you might be surprised with what you find.

Call your local firestation or bingo hall or church and see if you can borrow or rent chairs from them. I know my church allows church members to borrow chairs for 100 dollar deposit the worse thing a place can say is no.

Look on craiglist for a photographer that might be starting out, I did this and got mine for 450… when I hired her she had shot 0 weddings now she has shot 3 by the time my wedding gets here it will be about 8, I get excited everytime I go on her facebook page because I see her getting better all the time.

I-pod receptions are fun and you can rent the sound system just call around or you can look on craiglist for someone who is starting out needs the money and a recommendation, I mention to my guy that  if he did a good job that I would be willing to leave feedback on everysite that he asked me too and that I would be more than happy from him to use me as a recommendation, he lowered the price based on that.

Once you find one vendor see if they know anyone else to help you with your day.

call around to hair places your might find one that is cheaper then you think also dont be afraid to call day spas surprisingly for me that was cheaper than my local department store

Basically you can only do what you can afford remember that at the end of the day you are pledging to be with your SO for the rest of you life that is the only thing that matters and if you truly hate your day in 5 or 10 or 25 years you can do a vow renewal and throw a kickass party of your dreams


Post # 27
2404 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I have found alot of the time buying is cheaper then renting and then you can sell after the wedding and get some of that money back! And on that same note keep a eye out on craigslist because alot of brides sell things on there!

Post # 29
727 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I to feel your pain, weddings are expensive even if your do alot of things yourself. We had a buget of $10,000 but with a few unexpected things it was more like 413,000 for 132 guests. The venue was beautiful but we spent $1300 for tables, chairs and plates. The plates were 40 cents each and were cheaper than disposable plus I didn’t feel guilty for throwing away all that plastic. I hunted thrift stores for silverware (I love the mis-matched eclectic look) and found some beautiful pieces. I even saved some for ourselves, the rest is going on Craigslist to try and re-coop some $$$. Craigslist was great for buying other brides items. I bought a stunning silver cake stand for $60 and my husband sold it for the same price to a co-worker. I also did all the flowers, with help, myself. I spent $500 on flowers and $90 on supplies and did all the bridal party, centerpieces and misc flowere. I had a lot of fun doing it as well.

Even though I live in San Diego, an expensive city I think we had a beautiful wedding on a buget. I heard nothing but nice things people were saying on venue, flowers and the food. You’ll have a beautiful wedding too, you know why? Because it’s yours and it’s what you make of it.

Post # 30
185 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I got married on Clearwater Beach in Florida for well under 10K and it was beautiful.  It sounds like you need to look for a different venue.  The venue I chose included chairs for the wedding on the beach and in the reception room as well as linens, plates, silverware, etc.  It also included all the set up and take down.  They even put up my DIY centerpieces and decorations in the reception room.  Also, a DJ wasn’t that expensive.  PM me if you have questions or want to know more details.  Good luck.  I hope it works out for you. 

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