(Closed) It’s not fair! Don’t judge me :(

posted 11 years ago in Emotional
Post # 77
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3572 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I kinda disagree. I’m on these boards way more than I should be and I don’t see a lot of posts where someone is like “Hey, I’m getting evicted from my apt next week but I REALLY love this 5k dress, where’s the best place to sell a kidney quickly?”. I do see people saying things like “spending 30k on a wedding is ridiculous” and then like three posts later clarifying “oh but I dont mean YOU, YOU can afford it”. Whatever, its the internets, I don’t take it personally.

Post # 78
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5879 posts
Bee Keeper

@bRooklynRocks: I get what your saying and living here in NYC there just isn’t anyway for us to break into owinging a home ANY time soon. We are going to have to leave NY eventually because I refuse to spend $400K + on a hole in wall, with door mat sized backyard. Even as an event planner myself I as SHOCKED at the costs to throw wedding here. Thats why I’ve had to branch out to NJ & Hudson valley to see if I can get more bang for my buck. Who knows where I’ll land.

And I’m >><< with you, I give plenty of posters the sideeye and think TROLL TROLL TROLL

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@LGenz: that was funny ๐Ÿ™‚ and your right

Post # 79
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@LGenz: hahahhaha : “Hey, I’m getting evicted from my apt next week but I REALLY love this 5k dress, where’s the best place to sell a kidney quickly?

 

LOVE.

Post # 80
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401 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@bklynbridetobe: Tell me please where you found a BACKYARD for only 400K! (note, 400K is not a minor sum, but the average 2 bedroom here is a million) I couldn’t actually find anything that cheap my last time our when the housing market crashed. 

I’m in the “I don’t get it” camp and I agree with what someone else said that it has a lot to do with culture. In my family forking over $$$$$ for real estate is considered wise and buying a blouse full price from Macy’s is considered foolish and extravagant. 

But I agree with the sentiment that the interwebs doesn’t need to “get it.” However, don’t post online if you aren’t willing to accept that not everyone is going to agree with your vision. For this one event, every bride and groom is an artist and any artist will tell you that you need to be secure in your creation, opinions be damned.

Also, there are times brides do ask “Should I get blue shoe X for $$ or blue shoe Y for $$$$$$?” When that is asked, it is an expected and logical response to say: “Well, they’re both nice, but Y shoe is just soooo much more expensive. I would go with X.”

Post # 81
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4005 posts
Honey bee

@Miss Tattoo: Extravagant things are not bad, living outside of your means is.

Ditto!

Post # 83
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5879 posts
Bee Keeper

@Rubies: I was being sarcastic. I’m my neighborhood the home on the corner is going for $600K. Thats the average in this area and goes up $1.5M. And this is a decent place defintely not high end nor is the “hood”. I defintely believe R.E. is an investment but I can’t justify spending that at this point. I’m a life long Brooklynite and will always have a foothold here, but at those prices I’d rather get a bigger bang for the buck in NJ/PA or better yet move to the caribbean and actually get a proper view. ๐Ÿ˜‰

Post # 84
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3 posts
Wannabee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Look, if you can afford to spend a gazillion dollars then go for it.  If you can only afford to spend ten dollars, go for it.  Make sure which ever one you choose though, or even if you’re somewhere else, to please post pictures for the rest of the hive ๐Ÿ™‚

I think people should also keep in mind that different regions cost different amounts.  A West Coast or NYC wedding is probably going to cost a whole lot more than a wedding that is in a small town in Montana (no offense to any Montana brides, just using it as a hypothetical example here).  Just post pictures and share your stories ๐Ÿ™‚

By the way, my wedding is costing ONE MILLION DOLLARS!!!  (said in the Dr. Evil voice from Austen Powers– LOL!)  Not really, but I was dying to do it.

Post # 85
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401 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@bklynbridetobe: The other day I was looking at villas in Thailand right on the beach and on cliff sides overlooking the beach. Like, a 3 bedroom was 250K…I was really close to telling the boy to pack up, we’re moving! Then he reminded me there are tsunamis there…I fear drowning, I’m such a dork. 

Post # 86
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214 posts
Helper bee

To the OP – I don’t think the “judging” you may witness in posts focusing on more expensive weddings is either intentional or in particularly bad taste. I think it’s less about genuine jealousy and more about people realizing the downfalls of blind, mass consumption. Social standards and the Media Monster tends to instill this idea that we are, regardless of wealth, somehow entitled to a day of absolute, over-the-top luxury. Some people buy into this idea (literally), while others are more vocal in their rebellion against it. That difference in opinion is occasionally reflected in posts that deal with wedding related costs. I don’t think anyone is trying to be malicious or crude. In fact, I truly believe most posters are here for friendly advice, and the chance to support others in their choices.

Post # 87
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3060 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I don’t care what anyone spends on their wedding, and I don’t care how big anyone’s ring is.

I love looking at pictures of every single wedding, because they are all reflections of a couple, and a day filled with love  And I love jewelry, so I want to see it all.

I’m not going to hate on a pricey wedding and a huge ring, just because I didn’t, and don’t have one.  That’s petty and silly.  If you can afford it and still pay your bills, more power to you.

Post # 88
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1835 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

@Mrs. Meowerson: LOL. It was such a good post, too! I went in to edit one sentence, and when I hit submit the whole post was gone! And I hadn’t Ctrl+C’d! *sadface*

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