(Closed) Its not MY day its OUR day

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
4046 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I don’t know that this is the best way to deal with it, but I would follow your lead and just stop talking to your mom about it. There is nothing wrong with including your FH, but perhaps there are some thing you can ask just your mom about (like your dress for example, if you don’t want Fiance to see you in it).

Post # 4
235 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m not really in the exact same situation, but when people make suggestions that I know we’re probably not likely to take, I’ve been going the noncommittal route. “oh thanks, I’ll think about that” and then hopefully by the time they ask/suggest again I can tell them what we actually opted to do.

Post # 6
148 posts
Blushing bee

Maybe it’s not so much that she’s angry he’s involved, but she doesn’t feel involved enough? I would definitely discuss it w/her. If he’s willing to help you plan, I think that shows that you two will be able to work well together through marriage. 🙂 Seems weird to feel otherwise, unless he’s turning into a groomzilla.

Post # 7
250 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Yes, you should let your Mom know that you’re not leaving her out.  Otherwise, if you stop talking to her about wedding stuff, she’ll just be mad and hurt and won’t know why.  I think once she knows that you will include her in things once he proposes, she’ll feel better.


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