Post # 1
Ok I have a situation I am not sure how to feel about it and I wanted to vent…
Ok so we almost had a scare this month when I was 3 weeks late.
Well finally aunt flo appeared and we were like oh ok we’re good.
I always wanted to have that IDU done but this week FI’s has been pressuring me a lot to do it.
I wanna do it I just don’t want him to pressure me! he even called planned parenthood and got an application ready for me so I can get it done free! He basically feel it out and sent it off!
Finally today I said something really mean and I am kinda pizzed he is pressuring me. ugg ok sorry I had to vent
I just want to be able to do it on my own time. I know I need to do it and have it done because we have so long until our Nov 2011 wedding. Money wise well we dont really have none and i know it would put a burden on us if it happened right now. i just want to hear him say he wants a baby heck even babies! he told me he does he wants 3 more (we already have a 3 yr old) but he doesnt express it as much as i do. i guess i am just having baby fever…
Post # 3
So you don’t want a baby right now but you aren’t ready for the IUD yet? And if you don’t have any money, that’s what Planned Parenthood is for. He’s looking out for you.
My husband waffles on things he wants to do. “oh i’ll do it later, blah blah blah”. It bugs me..if you want something, go through with it. So i made him an appointment at the dermatologists office. He thanked me and now he’s going. Pretty sure if i hadn’t done it for him, he’d STILL be complaining about his skin, saying “oh i need to go” but not going, haha.
Maybe he realized how scary it was you COULD be pregnant and how hard it’d be to support another mouth so he got the ball rolling for you.
I guess if you aren’t ready for a baby and you aren’t ready for BC…sex can be very dangerous in the whole baby-making aspect
Post # 4
Do you mean IUD? argh typos.
Those are pretty easily reversable. While they CAN last 5-10 years depending on type, they can also be removed much sooner than that and are very effective. If you’re both in agreement that you don’t want kids for the next year and a half, I don’t think his wanting you to get this means he doesn’t want kids later. Since you say you’ve wanted to have it done, it’s just a sudden increase in pressure from him, it sounds like he’s just nervous and doesn’t want another scare. I don’t know the whole situation, but the way it reads to me, he’s more encouraging you to go and get it done so there’s no more nervousness than pressuring you to make a choice you don’t want about kids.
Post # 5
We don’t want a baby now because it isnt the right time but I guess he doesnt really show interest in wanting another kid.
I want the IDU i just dont want him to pressure me into it. He basically filled out everything and sent it off. I am already taking BC but he thinks this will be more effective and of course it last longer.
We don’t have money because we are planning a wedding. If something happens now we would have to put off the wedding until I guess never. idk i just wanted to vent about feeling pressured lol i dont want more kids now but i would like him to take interest in wanting more kids in the future.
Post # 6
oops YES! and i keep putting it wrong IUD!
Post # 7
Hmm, if you are taking BC and taking it correctly I’m not really sure I see the need for an IUD so I can understand your reluctance.
Post # 8
Just FYI, it is easier to get the IUD inserted during the first few days of your period if you’ve never had kids (That’s what they told me and it wasn’t too bad). I got mine out a year later because I had some side effects, but you can get it out at anytime!