(Closed) It's Official: He left me at 31 weeks

posted 8 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 32
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

from personal experience i know that you have to protect yourself and your baby. Get a separation agreement NOW. include child support, custody/guardianship for the child, etc. It’s the last thing you want to think about at this time but you have to protect yourself. Seek legal advice. You want to make sure you are taken care of and your baby.

xx hugs xx

Post # 33
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Frown

Post # 34
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

This happened to me as well I was 18 and about 5 months pregnant when I found out. My boyfriend decided that he wanted to see other people and not be tied to me since I was pregnant. I have the best son in the world he’s 7 and a half now and my fiance loves him. His father leaving me seemed like the end of my world at that point but honestly it was the best thing that ever happened to me… it just took me a long time to see that. I hope your doing okay and it will get better. Pretty soon you’ll have a new little one and that’s a good thing to focus on to get your mind off of the other things.

Post # 35
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

I”m so sorry. ((HUGS))

Post # 36
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Oh wow, I cannot even imagine how you must be feeling right now *hugs* I hope you can surround yourself with friends and family who will be loving and supporting of what’s going on.

Post # 37
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I’m so sorry. I really hope things work out for the best for you and the baby – what ever that happens to be.

Post # 38
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

That sucks.

Just as a suggestion, I would seek out a specialty single moms group for advice about what to do, how to proceed.  I know The Bump has such a group and those ladies know their shit about how to protect themselves and their children in these cases.

You might want to seek something like that out.

Post # 39
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m so sorry.  Be strong for your baby… be strong by surrounding yourself with loved ones and counseling, support groups…and pedicures and your favorite foods and songs and movies.  You will feel gutted for a while, but soon you will have a child to add to the love in your life, give you purpose and a reason to be positive, and at the end of the day, no matter how long it takes you to get through this, he’ll still be the fucking assbag who kicked the mother of his child out of your home.

Post # 40
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Bee Keeper

I am so sorry =(

Post # 41
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

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@MrsFuzzyFace:  Gosh. You are more forgiving than I. Glad it worked out for you, but he would not have had a second chance with me.

 

OP- I am so, so sorry. Can’t say anything more, but my thoughts and prayers are with you.

Post # 42
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

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@ChuckNorris:  where is real life Chuck Norris when someone needs to get roundhouse kicked in the face with a steel toed boot?  (hypothetically, of course)

Post # 43
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

: (  I’m sorry that he did such an awful thing to you. I’m happy that you have family nearby for love and support. You and your baby deserve better than him.

Post # 44
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

No good advice from me, but I’d love to give you some encouragement in what is clearly a very tough and trying time for you.

I think it is very tough sometimes to accept help from those around you, and I hope you are able to navigate those waters successfully now.

You’ll be a stronger, better person on the other side of this.

I don’t know who would do that to a person, kicking their pregnant girlfriend out. Not someone you want around the child you’re going to raise, influencing and teaching them, that’s for sure.

Post # 45
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

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@lilsweetie:  I totally agree! While this may be the last thing on your mind at the moment, this is definitely something to start thinking about soon. You didn’t make this baby by yourself, therefore he too should be equally responsible for taking care of the child.

Also, I just want to say how sorry I am, that you’re going through this. I know this may seem like end of the world but trust that this will only make you stronger! Best of luck to you!!

Post # 46
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Just remember, things happen for a reason. Even after coming out of some seriously horrible situations, eventually you will be able to find a silver lining. Wouldnt you rather have this happen before your child meets him? The longer you stayed together and the older your child gets, it would complicate things so much more should he walk out then. Thankfully you are seeing the real him now, not later. And if this has happened before, don’t ever take him back.

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