Post # 137
@PinkPinstripes: Would it be fair to ask that if some bees be a little bit more open to critique (aka, to do less flagging and try to not take comments too personally) that other bees would try to be more mindful of how they phrase responses?
Exactly. Both sides need to calm it down a little so that we can be honest.
Sometimes “blunt” and “honest” is mean. We all have our own lines on this so a rule will never work 100% of the time, but if people are thinking about how their comments will be perceived we can avoid most of this issue.
Mrs. Spring is totally right though. The Mods and Mr. Bee have the best interest of the vast majority of the site in mind and are not trying to censor nor are they drunk on power. Mr. Bee has made it very clear that he does not want to censor, but he also has a responsibility to keep the site productive. What a hard job! I think he’s doing great.
Post # 138
I didn’t see the original Honeymoon thread which spawned this post until just now. It seems that the reason CaitMarae’s comments were deleted is because the OP flagged her. However, the OP also APOLOGIZED to CaitMarae in that same thread. Not sure what the point of this thread is now. Let it die already.
Post # 139
I’m most likely going to be right there with you CaitMarae!
Post # 140
I will agree with some of the others and say I am very tired of the “cant we all just get along” posts. Point blank, we are women, no we cannot just get along. I like that there are people on here that are passionate about their opinions. I don’t think I would bother coming back to the boards if things were expected to be all shiny and nice. It’s boring.
Also, I’d like to point out that I get sort of frustrated with a particular kind of post. For example, an OP posts a thread that over 95% of responders disagree with. It seems on the boards that if more than 5 people voice their disagreeance, someone always has to jump on and say “Geez, I think she gets it, can’t we just leave her alone now??” That bothers me. The posters asked for opinions by starting a thread. If the OP has an issue with the amount of negative feedback they are getting back they have options…1) request the thread be closed 2) let the posters know you appreciate the comments but that you wish to close discussion or 3) just don’t return to the thread. It’s as simple as that. Why do people who post response have to be made to feel bad for disagreeing?
Post # 141
I really like Weddingbee, but I think the moderation policies are really goofy. 3 months ago, I reported 2 posts that I found offensive. I thought they were racist, but restrained myself from replying that way, because I didn’t want to start a fight. I reported them as “culturally insensitive,” because I thought that would be clear to any person. Apparently not. I never heard back from the moderators, and the posts were still there a week later. (Actually, I just checked back, and they’re STILL up.)
So, basically, I still hang around Weddingbee, and I’ve never been flagged or involved in any controversies, but I just find it hilarious that they let thinly-veiled racism slide, while people get all worked up, flagged, banned, etc because of “tone” and “snark” about registries and dry weddings. Imagine.