Post # 122
So ridiculous. If you ask me she was the one who first turned catty. Not once but twice. I bet they are automatic notcies sent when bride flags. So silly. I wonder if they even read the whole post. Thanks agian.
I guess some people only want to hear what they want.
Post # 123
Who cares if you were flagged. You can be pretty offensive at times. Just sayin, since we’re all being honest here.
Post # 124
hmmmm…. wonder what would happen is someone wanted to be truly nasty and decided to “flag” every post (or every other post) in a thread? would all the posters be “warned” or the comments deleted?
yep, I’m playing Devil’s Advocate here. but I’m actually curious as to what would happen!!! LOL!
Post # 125
Gee Cash, tell me how you really feel. You’re obviously missing the entire concept of this thread.
Post # 126
@UpstateCait: What in the world is going on here lately?? I’m just so surprised at how nasty it’s getting. Makes me sad
Post # 127
@Zinzerena: I’m not sure exactly how wedding be works, but in our system a flag just brings a thread or post to a mods attention. We get an email saying “so and so flaged this post” then we have to go over, read it and make a determination what to do.
If someone flagged all threads it would make the mods job of finding real problems harder because they’d have to wade through a ton of spam.
Post # 128
Would it be fair to ask that if some bees be a little bit more open to critique (aka, to do less flagging and try to not take comments too personally) that other bees would try to be more mindful of how they phrase responses?
If someone points out to you that you’ve been harsh in the past, take it in stride? Just as others should take it in stride to be less sensitive to people’s responses?
Personally, I think we should let this thread die because Mr. Bee has already said they are working on a new moderating strategy.
It’s Friday…no need to keep the drama going into the weekend, right? 🙂
Post # 129
I agree with Cash. Sometimes your posts are very direct and people take offensive to it. Similar to how you just took offense to Cash’s post. What was the point of this thread?
Post # 130
@UpstateCait: I think you are wonderful. I am so sick of all the overly sensative wussiness. I have stopped posting as much because I feel like we don’t get enough refreshing honesty like yours, so ignore the comments saying you are harsh, please. Its people like you that make asking opinions worth while…
The censorship is a little out of control in my opinion. If you want opinions, and you are mature enough to get married, you should be mature enough to gracefully accept that some people will disagree with you (or its about time you learned). That is my “catty” opinion 🙂
Post # 131
@UpstateCait: Wow, you are starting to get beaten down a bit and it’s unnecessary. I agree with @PinkPinstripes: and let’s have this one die out on it’s own without letting it get ugly.
We heart you @CaitMarae !
Post # 132
@UpstateCait:I’m just jumping in right now, but I think you are WAY great! You’ve never offended me.:)
Post # 134
@UpstateCait: 🙂 You have not offended me.
Post # 135
Jeez. I can honestly say I cannot stand the posts that come once in awhile titled “Can’t we all just get along” or “The bee seems snarkier to me than usual.” But honestly, this shiz is out of control.
@UpstateCait: I always seem to agree with you when you post and I see nothing wrong with giving it straight.
@PinkPinstripes: I too agree. I see so many bee’s asking for people to be nicer and to keep the snark down but isn’t it fair to ask posters to try not to take everything so seriously and be open to suggestions they may not normally be. I find that someone having their comments deleted for calling someone else rude or giving someone powerful honest advice means that we have gone over the moderation line. I’m getting so frustrated with the bee lately.
Post # 136
@sweetpea1031, @Crisark, @happyb, @MasqueradeMom & a solid 98% of this thread: Thanks guys. I <3 all of you. I’m cool with letting the thread die. I said my peace and frankly all I care about is knowing why my posts were removed. I have faith that the powers that “bee” are working to make the moderation guidelines a little more cut and dry so that we can all understand them. Thanks for your support!