(Closed) It’s Official

posted 10 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2008

How about asking her to do a reading at the ceremony?   A mention in your program would be sweet as well, if you have a section where you are thanking your guests for joining you, you could also put something special at her place-setting at the reception. 

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

Is she thinking she will not be able to come to the wedding at all?  Or just that she will not be able to be in the wedding?  If she can attend, you can certainly make her part of things by doing a reading, having a seat at the head table, asking her to give a toast – you could even say a few words before you give the microphone and introduce her as the person who is responsible for you and Fiance meeting. 

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

If you are doing programs, you could put a note in there for her.

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2008

Do something nice for her at your bridal shower- like maybe make her a scrapbook or something about how she is special to you  . . . just a thought

I like the idea of mentioning her in your program or briefly in a toast as well. . .  

Post # 8
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2008

Maybe add a note in the programs, or a note somewhere else in the decor maybe a note next to something that reminds you of her… use your imagination.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2005

It used to be that telegrams from guests who couldn’t make it were read at a wedding (back when telegrams were the be all, end all of communication). What if she sent a small note, reading or speech that could be read by someone else? That way she could still be there in a sense. (Bonus: if it’s filmed, she could see you guys react to her words after the fact)

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2008

The EXACT same thing is happening to me! 

My dear friend who introduced Fiance and I is due the day after our wedding, and lives about 6 hours away, so no way she can make it, either.  I had been considering making her a Bridesmaid or Best Man, too.  She called me thinking I’d be upset, and I was shrieking with excitement!

But there’s definitely sadness, too.  As such a close friend, I was really counting on her to be next to me and share in my excitement.  On the other hand, I think it’ll be kind of cool if the baby happens to be born on our wedding day.  It’d be doubly blessed, and we’d share our anniversary with a special person’s birthday!

Anyway, I just wanted to throw a "me too!" out there…

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