Post # 1
So, I have 3 very unique friends, my sister, and FI’s sister as bridesmaids. Only two of my friends know each other. The rest are all strangers to each other, and they are all my friends for different reasons, each with their own personalities.
I had my bridesmaid’s tea on Saturday, and it was clear they don’t all get along splendidly. I shouldn’t let that bother me, right? The important thing is that they are all my friends, right?
I know I am so over thinking this! I’m a people pleaser, and this is totally becoming a nightmare! 19 days to go…
Post # 3
They don’t need to like eachother they just need to be adults about it and be civil/pleasant to one another. Some personalities just don’t mesh well.
Post # 4
@rubyred605: Totally okay. Like you, most of my BMs didn’t previously know each other, and they probably won’t all get along. One of them doesn’t even speak the same language as the rest. They’re all important to me, though, and that’s what matters. Same for you. They should be adult enough to put their differences aside so they can all support you on your big day.
Post # 5
Usually they get a chance to bond during the shower and bach party planning, but I guess if they just met and your wedding is in 19 days that isn’t going to happen. I honestly wouldn’t worry about it, now that they’ve met they will be more familiar with each other on your wedding day and if they’re true friends they will at least pretend to get along. I was in a bridal party once and we all HATED the Maid/Matron of Honor, but never said a word to the bride and acted totally natural in person. It was difficult planning the shower, etc. since she was impossible throughout the entire process, but we made it work and just kept all of our frustrations to ourselves.
Post # 6
As long as there’s no hair-pulling or name-calling, I’d say it’s no big deal if they don’t become BFFs. As long as they support you on your day and during these next 19 days, everything is fine. None of my BMs know each other (well they’ve all met once) and I don’t expect them to keep in touch much after the wedding. Good luck and don’t worry!
Post # 7
No, they don’t all have to be friends, they all DO need to be mature about it and support you. Leave their personal drama at the door.
Post # 8
Thanks guys! I knew I was overthinking this!
You would think they would have gotten to know each other by now, but no… Oh well.