Post # 17
I hate to say it, and please don’t think I am trying to be mean, but I think being relationship oriented may have been a big problem. I am not saying it was all your fault, but if you don’t have a separate identity for yourself, things to focus on that make you who you are, it’s hard to give yourself to someone else. I think it is very important that you carve out an identity for yourself sans committed relationship.
Post # 18
(((Hugs))) to you.
I agree with others, take this time to figure out who you are and develop your own independent persona.
Make a list of all the reasons your marriage is over and why he is not the man for you. When you are feeling weak, read the list.
Also make a list of all you have to offer to the world and why you are important. When you are felling down, read that list.
You are so young and have the world at your fingertips. Throw yourself into your activities. Focus on meeting friends (both male and female) without focusing on a relationship right now.
It’ll take time to be comfortable on your own again.
All the best to you.