- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2015 - Hotel Ballroom
I just wanted to write this to help other future brides.
I have a ‘first dress story’.
As I have mentioned in other threads, I am estranged from my family, but initially tried to build a bridge with my Mother by asking her to help me plan my wedding. She was her usual controlling self, and actually picked out my first dress for me. She sent me a link to a website and ‘showed’ me a page of a few dresses I could ‘choose from’. There was nothing wrong with the dress per se. It was $250. The reason it was so cheap was it was discontinued.
I have added a picture of the dress…this is just a model.
She also picked out a head piece for me (much like the one in the picture) which I had no say in.
I could have TOTALLY walked down the aisle in that. It is a lovely dress.
A few months into the wedding planning process, I couldn’t handle my controlling Mother anymore. At this point she was completely ignoring what I wanted for my OWN wedding. The final straw was when she let me know that she had booked me an appointment with her hair stylist and they had picked out what HAIR COLOUR I was to have on my wedding day.
After we severed ties again, I had to start planning my wedding from scratch. I actually did consider wearing this dress…but on principle I chose not to.
Back to the drawing board! THIS time, I was determined to pick out my dress on my own. I wanted it to be 100% my decision and my taste. I didn’t want to choose a dress because I felt forced to, or to make someone else happy. Though it was extreme, I chose to go shopping alone.
I found my second dress in an unlikely place, It’s actually a stunning white evening gown! I found it at one of those stores that sells designer clothes cheap. I got it at a STEAL of $112…but it is worth over $400!
Please don’t judge the poor quality of picture, I took it in the change room. The lighting doesnt do the dress full justice!
Some may say that it isn’t a REAL wedding dress because it was designed to be a ballgown. I personally love it. The moment I put it on I lit up inside!
Your pictures will last forever! It’s more than just looking your best and being in an nice dress…you want to be in YOUR dress!
My original dress and headband still exist. Because they were being discontinued, I couldn’t return them. To be honest, I’m not sure if I would even want to. My plan is to someday donate them to a bride in need.
While it’s not ideal to have a ‘first dress story’, it’s totally ok.