(Closed) It’s OK to NOT do these things, right?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Which of these expendables are you doing/did you do?
    Out-of-towner goody bags bags : (28 votes)
    13 %
    Bathroom baskets for the reception : (47 votes)
    21 %
    Bridesmaids goody bags for the day-of : (39 votes)
    18 %
    Programs : (79 votes)
    36 %
    None of the above : (27 votes)
    12 %
  • Post # 3
    7587 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2010

    I know this might sound crazy, but if you can do a really simple program to make yourself feel like you got it done, go onto vistaprint and use their free business postcards as programs πŸ™‚ I just paid the $7 for shipping and it accomplished having some type of program

    Post # 4
    1909 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I think it’s okay – Do what’s going to make you happy. If you will stress and NOT enjoy the process of the above ‘extras’, then don’t.

    If I may, as a guest, make a plug for a program…even a 5×7 piece of paper. I always appreciate knowing who’s who in the wedding party πŸ™‚

    Post # 5
    5106 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    @Vonnegut1105: If you want to do the bathroom baskets you can find a lot of the items plus the baskets to use at the Dollar Tree or Dollar store. That’s what I’m doing…cheap and easy peasy. :o)

    Post # 6
    3126 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2017

    Its okay to skip those things. I think lunch for your BMs would be nice. If you end up with some extra free time, as a guest I would enjoy the bathroom baskets the most because it seems like I always forget some crucial thing but I would NEVER expect them to be provided for me at a wedding. It is just nice when they are πŸ™‚

    Post # 6
    620 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I’m not doing any of them. I might not even do favors or have a bridal party. Haven’t decided yet.

    Post # 8
    5106 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    @Vonnegut1105: Yup that can happen. Especially when you’re on a website like this and seeing all these great ideas. Just make a list of things you know you don’t want to go without, and stick to it. Don’t take on more than you know you or your wallet can handle.

    Post # 9
    106 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    If it makes you feel any better I didn’t even know that people did any of them except the programs, lol. So my answer is it would be 100% OK not to do them. I do like the programs because not everyone knows the wedding party and we plan on putting something cute in them about each of our members. But other than that I would say your sanity and pocketbook are far more important!!

    Post # 10
    227 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2012



    wow, that is a great idea!!

    Post # 11
    230 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    It’s 100% okay if you don’t do those things. Its just the wedding industry sucking us in, telling us we have to do this.

    I planned on doing it all too, but now I’m not going to.

    I will be doing bathroom baskets – cause you never know. And I’m going to buy our bridal party something, mostly just cause I love them! (Wedding party is made up of our siblings)

    Post # 12
    1684 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    The only Out of Town bags I’m doing are for my international guests, and they will be Canada/Ottawa themed. So thats 3 couples – otherwise 99% of our guests are Out of Town, so it’d get out of control. No thanks.

    I’m not doing programs. Or maybe I will. Definitely a “b” list item I’m refusing to think about until closer to the date.

    Eeeh. I’m good on the bathroom baskets.

    And I’m getting my girls a necklace/earrings set as well as paying their bar tab for the night. Dat’s it.

    Post # 14
    3314 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    You can skip all of those, but if money is the only issue with some/all of them, then there are definitely ways to make the programs at least, very inexpensively!  I made mine in a simple book style and it cost me a whopping $7 for all of them.

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