(Closed) It's only a soother people….not a nuclear device…*vent!*

posted 4 years ago in Parenting
Post # 46
1686 posts
Bumble bee

I had a binky until I was about 4 or 5. I ended up pretty darn good I must say. You do you, mama.

Post # 47
523 posts
Busy bee

whitepeony:  it’s not so much the teeth that are the issue. Pacifiers can actually reshape the palate and dental arch. In order to restructure, a lot of children need palate expanders and orthodontic work. Obviously pacifier use does not have this impact on every child, but it is cause for concern. 

Post # 48
9823 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

greaselightning:  Yes, I prefered a pacifier to sucking on thumbs.  Mine started sucking on her fingers so I pushed the pacifer more.  Thumb sucking is also terrible for your teeth but you can’t take away the thumbs like you can a pacifier.  I do think there was a window where I could have gotten it away from her easier and I missed it so I think I’m going to pay more attention with #2.  I breastfed her for 2 years and that is supposedly best for the palate and oral development so I’ll just guess it balances out lol.

Post # 49
1149 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013 - Ontario, Canada

I live by the role of “everything in moderation”. If your child has a soother 24/7 365 days a year then it’s probably a good idea to start limiting usage. Same as I would say about kids or adults watching TV, eating junk food, drinking sugary/alcoholic drinks etc. Let’s face it – there are very few things that are good for us in excess, but it doesn’t mean that limited usage is going to cause havoc either.

My son is 17 months and still uses a soother but we started to take it out during the day little by little once he was well established on solids. Now he only uses it at night, nap time and when he is teething badly (have tried every possible teether but nothing else works). It works well for us and we have a super happy well adjusted kid.

People are always going to judge you over something or other. At the end of the day you wouldn’t do anything to intentially hurt your child, quite the opposite so try to ignore the “haters”. I find that relatives memories are often very warped and they think that their kids were potty trained as soon as they started walking just bacause they can’t remember all the details or what it’s actually like raising a toddler. I think you’ll often find that what they remeber and what actually happened is quite different.

You are doing great and I am sure your son will be just fine. Mommy hugs from another soother mommy. 🙂


Post # 50
374 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

weaning YOUR child off a binkie is YOUR business and no-one elses priviledge. Tell them to BACK OFF! Seriously, its not like the child is playing with a gun, ITS A BINKIE and the child is 2 years old.

mom, you and dad just need to get on the same page. get educated because pacifiers can lead to braces later and tell everyone else how you want this handled. you know, because you are the parents not everyone else.

Post # 51
715 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

greaselightning :  Ugh I’m sorry you have to deal with your family being so mean. My mom told me I was never into my paci, I would pretty much throw it whenever someone gave it to me haha. But my brother was well over two, I’d say over three years old before he didn’t want his anymore. He loved his paci and always had it, it’s in almost every picture we have of us. People shouldn’t be telling your kid he’s “too old” for that. All kids are different. I was a pretty laid back kid, but my brother never liked leaving the house and was clingy and his paci helped uncomfortable situations for him. We were just different. He grew out of it eventually, and he’s living like your average everyday person….no problems because he held on to his paci longer than I did. I’ve never heard of them being bad for kids before, but if that’s a concern you could always talk to the doctor. 

Post # 52
78 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

My neice is almost 3, my sister and Brother-In-Law chose not to try and wean her off it this year because she got a new baby brother in January, who they were planning to give a pacifier to, and they didn’t want her to feel like it was taken from her and given to him, possibly causing bad feelings, resentment towards her little brother.  People should mind their own business, no one but the parents has all the facts, knows their kid, etc.

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