(Closed) It's over. I was blindsided.

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 92
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2185 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2024

What an ass. You deserve so much better.

Post # 93
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355 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I don’t see this as a pattern necessarily.  Jake wanted to party when he was younger, you didn’t and you left.  I don’t think you abandoned him.  Maybe that’s what Jake needed in order to grow up.  And it’s Eric’s fault for finding comfort in this chick instead of a family member, so I don’t believe for a hot second that you drove him into her arms. 

He’s just trying to find something to make him feel better about the situation and if he has to blame you, let him.  YOU know the truth and so does everyone else.  Let him continue to lie to himself about what/how/why it happened.  It’s just going to take him that much longer to heal.

You deserve someone so much better than that!

Post # 94
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239 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Oh honey. I am so, so sorry. I’ve been following your posts since the initial blow-up over the ring, and yes, hindsight is 20/20. It’s so great that you have such a solid support system to back you up during this ordeal. I’m proud of you for sticking to your guns. Forget this fool, moving on time.

Post # 95
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Manhattan Church Rec Center

oh damn….

Post # 96
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407 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I’m sorry Snow. You deserved better. I’m just glad you found out before you got stuck with him forever. Sending good wishes into the universe for you. Hugs.

Post # 97
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

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@SnowInApril:  Your mind is going to keep replaying this over and over for a little while, but that’s OKAY because you’ll gain a lot of insight and wisdom from it and then you’ll stop thinking about it.  It’s all part of the healing process.  I hope you’ll believe us when we tell you that this was NOT your fault, though!  You didn’t abandon Eric during the ring fiasco or at any other time.  In fact, HE’s the one who abandoned YOU when he started cheating!  He’s going to try a few more times to try to convince you and everyone else that this was somehow YOUR fault but don’t buy into it, and tell your friends and family what happened.  Other people will of course have their opinions about what happened and some people may even believe him and take HIS side, but that’s just the nature of the beast which happens in every break-up.  What’s truly important is that YOU know the truth and so will the people who are the closest to you.  I know you will have lots of support, especially from us here!

Post # 98
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2997 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

You might not realize this now….but you just hit the jackpot by not marrying that fool.  Stay strong lady…we are all here if you need us!

Post # 99
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

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@SnowInApril:  I’ve read your other posts, Now you can be with Jake! 🙂   (i was secretly rooting for the two of you after the park incident)

Post # 100
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996 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

SO sorry you are dealing with this. Can I just say, I hope that ALL women who continue to see a man that knowingly is in a relationship, get bitch slapped across the face several times in life. What a low thing to do and there isn’t an excuse in the world for those kind of girls.

Hang in there OP, looks like you avoided a marriage from hell with an idiot scumbag that doesn’t know right from wrong.

Just remember, if he cheated on YOU with another girl…he will probably cheat with her because it sounds like he has some issues that need to be figured out before he can get serious with anyone.

What a loser!

Post # 101
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I don’t really have any adivce but I just wanted to be another voice in your head saying that you are not in the wrong here whatsoever and you will be happy someday with a guy you loves you more than anything and will give you a beautiful engagement ring, a beautiful house, and a beautiful life.  Best of luck!!!

Post # 102
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451 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

What a mean, immature and manipulative man! I’m so sorry for your horrible experiences, and so glad that you won’t have to go through them any more with this jerk. I’m sure you’re feeling pretty battered right now, so just know that time will heal and you have lots of support from this wonderful forum . . .

Post # 103
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Like many other PP’s, I followed your other 2 posts as well. When I saw this thread, my heart dropped as I read through the post. I am SO SORRY this happened to you. You just have to be thankful you found out how big of a jerk he is now-before you said “I do”

Now, you can move on with your life & eventually find a man that is deservant of you. You will look back and be so happy & glad you aren’t with Eric…but with a man you are IN LOVE with!!

Again, I am so, so sorry…keep your head up & remember to breathe.

 

Post # 104
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506 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

What a jerk, and wow, he is such a piece of work (in no way I believe that this kind of mind still exists and has a long-term relationship, after the post that you mentioned about the CZ ring, I have always thought that, but didn’t want to sound too mean, this guy doens’t deserve it).  In a way I am happy for you that it has turned this way. Let the other girl has him!!!  

Post # 106
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2024

I’m with your roomate on this one, don’t believe his BS. He’s only saying this so you don’t hate him and so he can feel better about his sleezy ways. Also I bet he’s only doing it so his family & your mutual friends won’t call him out for being the scumbag that he is.

Like I said previously, you deserve so much better.

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