(Closed) It's over. I was blindsided.

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 122
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

Honestly, I am SO glad you did not marry him.

I had a “Jake” once and he died. I married someone that I loved but wasn’t in love with and I didn’t have that soulmate feeling and it ended in divorce. 

I finally found the love of my life and I know without a shadow of a doubt that he is perfect for me and he was sent from heaven by my “Jake” because I met my Fiance on the same anniversary that I started dating my Jake.

Obviously, Eric is not the one for you. You will find the man you are supposed to marry and spend the rest of your life with someday, I promise :).  (((((Hugs)))) You’ll get through this!!!!

Post # 123
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412 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I just can’t get over waht a piece of work Eric is.

He tries to get you to break up with him by lying to you and telling you that he has been cheating on you for the last 3 months.  And then later tells you that it is all your fault because you weren’t affectionate enough.

Come on.  He is taking the pussy way out.  It is all your fault, you didn’t love me enough, I  will never be good enough for you.

It is definitely a good thing that you didn’t marry this child.  He is 30 years old and still has alot of growing up to do. 

I hope your feeling a lot better now that you have had some time to heal (HUGS)

Post # 125
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Buzzing bee

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@SnowInApril:  ….. they’re taking HIS SIDE!? WHAT THE HELL!?

UGHHHH

You are so strong and amazing. Hang in there. It sounds like you have a pretty good support system. And you have all of us here too <3 

Post # 127
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

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@Chrysoberyl:  No girl. They’re taking HER side.

“They seem to all be taking my side”

Snow, you hang in there. I’m sorry it ended like it did but I’m glad it ended before the wedding and not after. Just read on this board and you will see a lot of brides had second thoughts and still went through with the wedding. Now they’re miserable and trying to make it work. He is a coward and should have talked to you about how he was feeling but he did you a favor in the end. Hugs.

Post # 128
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Buzzing bee

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@SnowInApril:  

Ah okay. I misread and then I instantly got pissed off. My mistake! That’s the way it should be. I know how you feel about the whole “picking sides” seems childish, but in this case people are just seeing it how it is. 

Post # 129
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Buzzing bee

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@cerenatee:  

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@SnowInApril:  

Ah okay. I misread and then I instantly got pissed off. My mistake! That’s the way it should be. I know how you feel about the whole “picking sides” seems childish, but in this case people are just seeing it how it is. 

Post # 130
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@SnowInApril:  i did not read your previous threads. but it sounds like you are better off without him. I am so sorry, no one should have to ever be treated like that by an SO. the best you can do is pick up the pieces, and walk away. you will be so much happier.

Post # 131
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5155 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2010

As terrible as this all is…I think this is actually a great thing to have happened for you in the long run. As I indicated on a previous thread, it did not sound like he was right for you in any event. I do think that this is a great opportunity for you, and that it is a blessing you did not end up marrying him.

You will be more than okay. 

 

Post # 132
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

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@SnowInApril:  I agree with everyone, this is a blessing in disguise. Two things are certain, you WILL get through this and karma will take care of your ex! I’ve had my heart ripped out of my chest in the past and one of my dear friends told me to “cry a river, build a bridge and get over it.”

I followed those instructions and now I’m getting ready to marry the man of my dreams.  Have faith!  Lots of hugs your way!!

Post # 133
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

i just read ur story & it brough tears to my eyes. the shock of finding out he has a girlfriend is terrible! im so sorry for u. u sound like u r being strong right now. keep in mind it may hit u all  at once & if u fall into a complete heap that is ok! its more than ok , it is to be expected. you are lucky u have so much support around u. wish u the best

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