(Closed) It's OVER. Lying, cheating scumbag husband

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 47
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@PenguinLove: 

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@Pomapoo:  don’t get him fired.  that could back fire on you.  he won’t be able to pay support (if it’s awarded) or even worse, she would have to pay him support b/c she makes more.  wait until you speak to a lawyer and get a separation agreement prepared. 

Post # 49
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@Pomapoo:  Thank goodness you are a smart woman and realized it now!!! Your husband should not make you feel bad about yourself in any way, shape or form. Run, as fast as you can.

PS-I looked at your previous posts, and I am certain you will be snagged up quickly by a respectable guy (you’re beautiful and clearly have a lot to offer).

Post # 50
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

@mypinkshoes:  I realise my advice is pretty awful but it’s just the first thing I thought of.

Post # 51
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Pomapoo:  Oh geez, what a pig jerk jackass! You found out in time! Get a lawyer and stick close to your friends and family. Everything will work out fine.

Post # 52
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Honey bee

@mypinkshoes:  yes 100%! Do not get him fired! Aside from the legal/financial implications that could have on you, two wrongs don’t make a right and what kind of person would you be to do that in spite? Don’t stoop to his level. 

Im so sorry OP but you will get past this and find happiness. Just make sure to protect yourself!

Post # 53
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m so sorry, what a douchebag!!

 

i would wait until after your divorce, then send his boss a letter. I bet he’s been racking up some “expense reports” during his travels. I know two wrongs don’t make a right but he’s an a first class ass.

Post # 55
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312 posts
Helper bee

 

So so sorry.  Only advice I can offer is to get yourself a really good lawyer to protect what you can. 

I am sure all you feel now is pain and betrayal, but it will get better.  Keep your chin up.

Post # 56
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Busy bee

@Pomapoo:  talk to the lawyer before you do anything, don’t get him fired.  And I can’t stress enough, don’t tell him what you are up to.  You’re going to be fine- I was married for 10 yrs with a child when this happened to me, you will be fine even if you don’t think so now.

Post # 57
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Sugar bee

@Pomapoo:  And that is exactly why I believe in my open book policy…UGH!

You poor thing. I’m so sorry you have to go through this. I wish I had some magic words to make you feel better. Thank goodness it didn’t go on any longer. Hope you can find the strength to pick up the pieces and move on. You’re worth so much more than he could ever comprehend. 

ETA: If you plan on using the affair in your divorce you’re going to need actual physical proof, ie. pics, bank statements, whatever you can get your hands on.

Post # 58
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I’m so sorry, OP!

Post # 59
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I’m so sorry he did this to you. 🙁 I too have been cheated on by someone I thought I’d spend the rest of my life with. I actually found out the day after the proposal… The best day of my life followed by the worst. But it did get better, and it will for you too. It just takes time to heal. I’m glad your friends are with you and you’re taking the necessary steps to protect yourself physically and financially. Hugs to you <3

Post # 60
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

@Pomapoo:  For the sake of the company, after he has paid out what he needs to for the house, divorce, whatever, you should tell them.  That is really dishonest business practice and a drain on their funds, so as a company they should know.

Now for YOU – I am SO sorry you have had to deal with this man for so much of your life. I am sorry he has treated you horribly and cheated on you. But you get to look forward to finding someone good, and never having to put up with this jackass as a husband again. It makes me sick men like him exist, and I hope his life gets gosh awful enough to make him see and feel guilt for being the type of person he now is.

Post # 61
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Just want to add that I looked at your previous posts and saw photos – HE DOES NOT DESERVE YOU. He looks like a fucking troll! What an idiot. 

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