Post # 1
We set a date and booked our venue, and I’m in love with it. The only problem is, it’s 9 months out. I’m not a super organized person, but I do tend to leap into action when it’s necessary. Obviously now it’s necessary. So, I have my venue and I’ve already contacted a caterer, my friend from high school has volunteered to DJ for a small fee, and his wife is a photographer. Am I on the right track with the things I am supposed to be doing at this point? I have that wedding planner thing on The Knot, but it’s stressing me out and making me feel like I am behind. I’m also kind of freaking out because my fiance is showing absolutely no interest in it. We keep saying that we’re going to sit down and really go through everything, but every time we do, it is apparent that he doesn’t know everything that goes into planning a wedding. As much as I like having creative freedom, I do need some help and some direction. I just feel pretty disorganized at the moment. Can anyone offer me some advice?
Post # 3
- Wedding: April 2012 - St. Philip Catholic Church/Arcadia Brewing Co.
Sounds like you are doing great! Our engagement was not that long (10 months) and so far it has been more than enough time.
I think the Knot tool is a good one, but I deleted about 20% of the tasks because they just did not apply to our wedding. Doing that made me feel a lot better about the list.
As far as help/advice/direction, maybe you would be best off making choices and then deligating things to your Fiance. I put Mr. Aardvark in charge of a handful of things that I knew he would be good at and left them all up to him. For everything else I drove and asked for input as needed. Most of the time I got “whatever you want to do” as an answer. If you need help deciding between two things, the hive is great with friendly, honest input too!
Good luch and congrats!
Post # 4
Figure out your budget.
I’d get started on your dress too… if you go through a boutique or designer they can take a few months to come in once you order it, then you have to allow time for alterations.
I’d probably get started on a rough guest list estimate to make sure you have time to iron out any kinks between the families about who is and is not invited. Oh, and I skipped the STD’s because we didn’t have a finalized list yet and once you send an STD you have to send an invitation.
Close your eyes, take a few deep breaths, and get a mental picture of what you want your wedding day to look like. Write down all the details you can so you don’t forget anything. It’s overwhelming, but once it’s on paper you can break it down and look at each part individually & tackle small goals one at a time.
Enjoy being engaged & have fun planning- the point is at the end of the day you will be married to your best friend… everything else is just fondant on the wedding cake!!
Post # 5
Thanks ladies! I have already put together a list of guests, and sent it over to my dad to make necessary cuts (we have a large Italian family/lots of friends). We are not doing save the dates either. I just sent a casual email to the close members of our families (who will definitely be on the list) announcing our date and asking that they put it on the calendar. I feel better knowing that I am somewhat on the right track. I guess it’s better to look at wedding dresses sooner than later. I will get on that step as well.