Post # 1
Today was our anniversary. It was nice and we went out for dinner at a nice restaraunt and had some wine at home. I was not expecting a ring today anyways, so it’s not even that.
Background: SO lost his job at the end of December right before Christmas because the company was doing temp to hire process and they thought they needed more people but decided not to hire them all on. They cut the last two people offered jobs earlier in the week, and he was one of them. He has been searching for jobs since then but nothing has come up yet. He’s currently going to bartending school to do on the side once he gets another job and then he can also go to school for something else after he gets more settled.
Anyways, he had a plan to propose on a specific day, since our dates so far during our relationship have been kind of patterned. We started talking on 11/1/11, went on our first date on 12/22/11, became officially a couple on 1/22/12, first said “I love you” on 4/14/12….all patterns or repeat numbers. When he lost his job, he said he didn’t know if he would be able to propose on the day he wanted to but didn’t know for sure because if he got a job right away things would be fine. Tonight while we were at dinner, he stated that he wasn’t going to be able to propose on the date he wanted and he was sad about it. He said was going to start saving a little of each check after he got hired on (in December) and then use some of his tax money to go buy the ring and propose on 3/13/13. Now it depends on how soon he’ll be able to get a job.
I got so bummed. I know I shouldn’t be this bummed but I am. I don’t blame him for wanting to wait at all because I understand he has to use the money he has sparingly in case a job doesn’t come along sooner rather than later. BUT still. It makes me sooo sad. On our way home, I felt tears forming but I quickly pulled it together. I didn’t want him to see me so stupidly emotional about something that I KNOW is going to happen – just not right now, and I didn’t want him to feel guilty about not being able to propose when he wanted to and had all picked out and planned already. Then I started thinking that I was a bad person for becoming so emotional about it and almost crying about something so stupid. He’s trying, and I know that. I need to just stop. Blah.
I’m not sure what I’m really looking for posting this, if anything at all. This got wayyyyy longer than I was expecting it to be. Sorry!
Post # 3
I know waiting can be hard. I am waiting and I have to tell you that I am a little jealous of your position In my case that I’ve posted about, my boyfriend has said he wants to get a job and save some money and then maybe it will happen. My boyfriend has NOT said he hopes it will happen 3/13/13 (the day of my 30th bday BTW), or that there will be a short delay. Have you thought about telling your SO that you don’t need a diamond? Perhaps this will speed up the process and you can get engaged and it will help his pockets a bit. He can always upgrade for you later! I tried telling my SO that and he just laughed at me. We were actually up in the air on a plane and I couldn’t tell why he was laughing nor did I have time to address it (we were being picked up by his family at the airport for Xmas holidays).
I say be patient. I think that you have a man in your life who wants to marry you. 11/12/13 could be a cute day to get engaged, or even 4/4/14. Sequential patterns are all over if you look for them :D. You’ve only been dating A YEAR and I’ve been in my relationship 2.5 years and I’ve been told it’ll happen ‘one day’ which is very vague. You should be happy that you have a SO who is involved and letting you know about his future talks about advancing the relationship with you. Just try and be supportive of him right now, it sounds like he is going through a hard time. When he finally DOES get a job, the engagement will be sweet and stress free and he will feel good about having you in his life who supported him when times were hard. This turned out to be longer than I intended too, sorry!! Good Luck!
Post # 4
@veryberry13: I didn’t even realize you had replied until I checked the thread and was going to throw an update in there.
I have told him I didn’t need a diamond. We have talked about Moissanite but he almost seems embarassed that it isnt a diamond and way cheaper, because I think he assumes people will think he’s cheap. I think it is a beautiful stone and way cheaper, should we/he decide to go with a Moissanite stone. I even told him that a Moissanite is something to be proud of as well, because it is beautiful and it is definitely not like a cz stone (which I don’t want at all). I even told him we could upgrade it on our 5 year or something if he really prefered for me to have a diamond rather than a Moissanite.
He also said 9/11/13 (9 and 11 are two numbers apart, as well as 11 and 13), along with the dates you suggested, but I said there was no way I’d want a 9/11 proposal. That day is to honor those who have died and I don’t want to get engaged on a day that is (to me) supersticious lol. He suggested 5/9/13 (4 numbers between each as well), if he got a job sooner…or he’d think about other pattern dates. I guess we’ll see. I do agree with you though that it will still be sweet and also stress-free when he does propose. We live together (renting a townhome) so I have been picking up a couple extra shifts at work to make this work…but things have been a little stressful still.
He did have a call back today from a place he applied to earlier in the week though, and has an interview scheduled for tomorrow morning. I’m really hoping he gets this!!!!! He was really excited about this company so hopefully he gets it!