Post # 1
…over something I saw on facebook! ARGHHHH!!!! stupid stupid facebook! Which is probably the worst part of it, because it’s so stupid, if it wasn’t for facebook, I wouldn’t have known about it…
Anyway…Without too much detail because I guess it would be self promotion, but let’s just say that I have a small business in the wedding industry. I haven’t done much with it the past few years because I got really burnt out but I’ve decided, just in the last month or so, that I wanted to get back into it. Plus, I need the money for my own wedding! 🙂
This morning I was checking status, etc. and I see that MY SISTER wrote on her friends wall “A friend of mine is getting married, I passed your info along to them!”. Her friend and I do the same thing.
I know that I shouldn’t be upset because I never told her that I was starting the business up again. But I mean, she’s given me referrals before, so why not this one? It’s just hurtful. When she was a hair stylist I always gave her referrals. Plus, I’m her sister!
Do I leave this alone or do I just casually say to her the next time I see her that I’m back at it?
Post # 3
I would just let her know you’re getting back into it, so if she has any friends who are getting married you’d love it if she passed your name along. I wouldn’t specifically mention this one. If you didn’t tell her there’s no way she could have known. I’m sure she didn’t do it intentionally, she probably thought you already had enough on your plate, and if you haven’t done much with your business lately, there’s no reason for her to assume otherwise!
Post # 4
I think it could have been an innocent mistake …not knowing you had started back up again? I would bring it up to her… or just let her know you started up again
Post # 5
Well you’re currently planning your wedding, and you’re not working on your business right now… I wouldn’t think anything of it. Plus you her sister, she may have mentioned you to her friend but she doesn’t really need to tell you that.
Besides, the other vendor may be more her friend’s style/budget, may live closer, may really need the business. Don’t let it get you down, she’s given you referrals before she obviously knows how talented you are!
Post # 6
If she doesnt know that you are still n the business then she wouldnt know to refer people to you. Just let her know that you are now in the business and ready for referrals if she comes across anyone interested in your line of work
Post # 7
SEE! I am being ridiculous. Thanks ladies!
We have a tough relationship and when even small things like this come up, it always tends to get blown out of proportion because we are still mad or upset about previous things that have happened…. healthy, no?
Post # 8
@Mrs.Mittens: I think sisters are just like that. I know I go through that kind of stuff with my sister too.
Post # 9
@bakerella: Thank god. It’s so frustrating!
Post # 10
I can see how when you first saw it, it would make you upset.
However, since your sister didn’t know that you were starting up again, I’d let her know and then hope she passes on referrals now. She probably was unsure as to if you were going to be taking any referrals right now, so she passed the job onto a friend.
Post # 11
I think it was probably a innocent mistake on her part.
I can see how you’d be upset at first but taking a step back and thinking about it, she probably wasn’t doing anything to be mean.