(Closed) It’s still going to feel like a wedding, right?

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
339 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Other than the legal part, there is nothing required in a wedding. Do it your way and enjoy yourself!

Post # 4
2239 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

“Um, what? This is our wedding day. Just because it’s not frilly doesn’t mean it’s not the right choice for us, or that it doesn’t “count” for some odd reason.

 It really is more about the marriage than the wedding to me, but I also want the day to feel special. I think I can blame the wedding industry for this one–the whole mentality that you need to have x, y, and z for a wedding has gotten to me a little bit, even though I think that idea is total crap, and now I’m stressing over something dumb like this”

I don’t think you need reassurance dude…You pretty much have said anything I or anyone else would tell you. Go with your gut. Trust in your decisions! You know that this is right for you guys, so trust in that!

Post # 5
1166 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

It burns me up to hear about people saying these kinds of things to a bride. Ugh. Just because that’s not what someone else would want does NOT mean it is not a “real” wedding!

You chose what you chose because it felt right to you, right? So you’ve already decided what will make the day special for you. Allow yourself to enjoy without worrying about silly people’s opinions, and do not let anyone else’s “expectations” sway you. That’s THEIR problem, not yours!

Post # 7
527 posts
Busy bee

My cousin had a courthouse wedding with just her immediate family present.  She had planned on having a “real wedding” later, but never did because she realized that her day at the courthouse was the only real and special wedding she truly wanted and needed.

Post # 8
1403 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Everyone has their own perception of what constitutes a “real wedding.”  I had lots of people pass judgment on me because of some decisions I made, but I chalked it all up to them being close-minded.  Believe me, your wedding is going to feel like a wedding, and having a reception next-day is NOT going to detract from it at all.  I actually think it’s kind of romantic that you two will get to spend one night as husband and wife before the actual party…

Post # 9
1871 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

Your wedding would feel special even if you hired someone to marry you wearing bathrobes in your apartment. You’ll be that happy.

Post # 11
6572 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

A wedding doesn’t mean big fancy event. It means a life long commitment to your partner. It will definetly feel like a wedding!

People just don’t understand that others might have different tastes, styles, and opinions and just b/c they would want a big wedding, that doesn’t mean you do.

Post # 12
520 posts
Busy bee

Girl, you could get married in jeans in your yard….and it would still be your wedding.  From everything I’ve read about your planning and gorgeous dress, your wedding and receptionis going to be amazing and lovely.  Non tradition can be a beautiful thing to be cherished.

As a side note……I’m a nurse and one of my patients (outpatient clinic) was getting married.  His future wife had her dress, venue, everything.  The day before the wedding he was called in for a kidney transplant.  They already had the marriage license.  One of the groom’s uncles was a reverend.  They called him and he quickly came to the house and married them in the yard, in jeans, no make up…..etc….just before he went to the hospital for his transplant.  Their intent was to renew their vows and have their wedding when he was fully recovered.  But, they didn’t…..they were already married and with his new kidney they had all they needed. 

You are going to have a wonderful and spectacular time…….enjoy every second and soak it all in.  Don’t let anybody bring you down……people can be so cruel and thoughtless………

Post # 16
714 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@Statutory Grape: You only need four things for a “real” wedding – you, your groom, an officiant and a license – everything else is just fluff.  Don’t let anyone make you feel bad about your choice – its lovely!  And no, it won’t feel just like another day – you’ll be marrying the man you love and that alone makes it wonderful and unique!  Good luck and don’t let shallow people rain on your day!

The topic ‘It’s still going to feel like a wedding, right?’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors