Post # 1
I’ve come across this statement everywhere from bridal magazines, internet articles and here on the Bee, it’s basically the idea that MOST of us have spent our whole lives dreaming of and secretly planning aspects of our WEDDINGS (not marriages) and I’m just curious to see how many actually did.
I never did, I always assumed I’d end up married but I never thought about any of the details and never really thought in much detail about my future husband (other than assuming he’d be a brunette as I always found them hotter… he’s not). I never had an ideas about the dress, the colours, the location or anything, so the idea that most women have already thought about it and been dreaming about it surprised me.
Post # 2
I’m the “other” vote, and my answer is no – never really gave it much thought either way.
Post # 3
cpick: I didn’t really start thinking about anything wedding-related until I knew marriage was definitely on the cards; and even then I think I only really thought about the shoes and dress. I always wanted to be married at some point though; though I always thought I’d be in my 30s and ended up being 27.
Post # 4
- Wedding: A very pretty church.
cpick: Other. Wasn’t sure I’d want to get married and if I did want to that I would be able to (depending on who I partnered up with and the laws at the time). However I’ve always had a few aesthetic preferences I guess, but that wasn’t necessarily for MY wedding! more general.
Post # 5
I never thought I would get married ever, not even when I was engaged to my ex (thank goodness that didn’t work out!). The first time I ever thought about marriage was when I met my current SO, about 2 years into the relationship I started planning an elopement. I never considered a big flashy affair, but a special romantic wedding for two that was just about us and our lives being joined together. Well we have been together for 5 years now and talking about getting married …
Post # 6
I’ve always loved weddings. I even was a wedding planner for several years. But I can’t say that I ever gave a mountain of thought to what my own would be like. I mean of course, I’d attend a wedding and say “oh, I like the idea of coral dresses, maybe I’ll do that” or “a strapless wedding gown is obviously not for me,” but even then it was very abstract. Not until I got engaged did I put any real thought into what MY wedding would be like. But of course, all the ideas flowed very easily because I’ve been tuned into the wedding industry for quite some time.
Post # 7
I think this idea is another selling point for WIC – “So, you have dreamed about this day all your life, you definitely need to buy XYZ!” Honestly, I have been dreaming about my wedding when I was in long-term relationship, I managed to design at least 3 wedding dresses in my imagination (and bought completely different one), but it wasn’t dreaming since childhood for sure. In my country most weddings are more low-key, so people don’t fret over centerpieces, engraved invitations etc. and event itself not considered the highest point in woman’s life.
Post # 8
All I can think of is Monica dragging out her wedding binder on Friends… 🙂
Post # 9
lmeihls: + a million. This is exactly what I thought of!
Post # 10
Yeah, no. Not a consuming thought for me.
Post # 11
I always dreamed of finding my husband, falling in love, getting engaged/married but not the like actual wedding day/flowers/dresses etc.
Post # 12
My mom taught me to dream of actual achievements, then to go out and achieve them!
Post # 13
I thought about it since I knew what marriage was. All I ever wanted in life was a good husband, a lot of kids, and a house in the country with chickens and acerage for dirt bikes and hunting. I didn’t obsess over the details until I was engaged. Although I looked at wedding dresses online for years.
Post # 14
I thought about getting married – because I wanted to – but I didn’t start really thinking about what kind of wedding I wanted until Darling Husband and I got serious – then I realized I actually might get married and there would be a wedding involved!
I of course had passing wedding thoughts, usually AT someone elses wedding – things like “that’s a good idea” or “now you know an outdoor wedding wouldn’t suit you.” But I didn’t have anything planned out, per se.
Post # 15
Horseradish: Me too. Actually it was part of my parents’ wedding speech.
Approximately zero of my dreams for 27 years included anything to do with a wedding or marriage. When I started dating my now-husband, I felt differently about him and felt we’d be together forever.. But still didn’t feel compelled to jump on the waiting train and start pining over becoming engaged.