Post # 1
I posted on here last week about how I wish my SO isn’t really one to surprise me or do thoughtful things just because, and that I’d wish he did more of those things. But really ..this weekend, I was just reminded how great he is and that I sometimes forget about all the things he does right in our relationship and just how happy he makes me.
On Friday, he told me he had a conversation with his mom about how great he thinks I am and how happy he is. My heart pretty much melted right there on the spot. Friday evening, after we got home from his work Christmas party, we just sat on the couch and talked for close to 3 hours about life and the future. No distractions, no interruptions. It was amazing and meant so very much to me. Yesterday, he happily took me to see Christmas lights and baked cookies with me (something I had asked if we could do a couple weeks ago) and today, he randomly texted “I love you so very much.”
So honestly ..all of this is enough. He does plenty. He may not put much effort into little surprises and he may not do nice things out of the blue just becuase, but he does put effort into showing me he loves me in many other ways. It’s sometimes easy to focus on the one thing he doesn’t do rather than focusing on the tons of things he DOES do.
It’s the little things that matter!
Post # 3
I love these moments. The moments when you realize just how amazing he really is. I had one of these just the other day on our honeymoon. We were eating dinner at a restaurant and I had gone to the beach to put my feet in the sand while we were waiting for the appetizers. I looked back at him just sitting at the table and I thought to myself damn it….he’s amazing. He loves me so much, more than I ever thought someone could love me, and he shows me in so many little ways all the time. These moments are so special and important. You need them for many reasons, but mostly to remind yourself of just how lucky you really are.
Post # 4
@lia22: Exactly! So sweet. And congrats on your marriage!!! Enjoy being a newlywed!
Post # 5
I have to remind myself of this sometimes too. When I’m feeling like maybe he’s loosing interest in me. We get so used to certain aspects of the relationship that we just don’t notice things like these.
Good job for noticing. Any time I am feeling down or worried about his feelings I think back to these kind of moments and realize just how wonderful we are together
Post # 6
- Wedding: September 2013 - The Skinner Barn
I think sometimes I need to remind myself why I love my fiance. Like your guy, my fiance isn’t really one for little surprises. I, on the other hand, love to buy him little gifts or send him little notes when I’m thinking of him throughout the day. Sometimes I get on him about him not putting in the same kind of effort. I could tell him a million times over that I’m really stressed out about finals or that I’m not feeling well but I never come home to flowers or even a pack of gummy bears. I never got a graduation gift when I graduated from undergrad. It just never crosses his mind.
I actually got into an argument with him yesterday about it. I’ve gotten on him about not getting things done for the wedding (we’ve been engaged for 2 months now and he still hasn’t talked to his groomsmen about being in the wedding) and he claims that if I had a little more faith in him, he would actually accomplish something. AKA. The more you ask me to do something, the less I want to do it. I’m kind of a control freak so this doesn’t really fly with me. I’ve kind of adapted the attitude that if I want something done, I just have to do it myself.
At the end of the day, I really love my fiance despite these faults. He may not take me out on a ton of romantic dates, but will clear his schedule just to lie with me on the couch and talk. He puts up with my crazy planning and doesn’t complain when I take an hour to pick napkin colors. I guess sometimes I don’t give him enough credit for being amazing because I’m so focused on being mad at him for not doing amazing things for me.
Post # 7
They always say guys show their love and appreciation in their own way, which is usually stuff we don’t recognize as being affectionate or not always in the way we hope for. My FH does most of the housework and chores without me asking, and always remembers the little details of things I tell him even when I tend to ramble on. He isn’t always Mr. Romance, but the fact that he does these things is a big sign for me that he’s trying to please me.
I think a lot of women are looking for romantic gestures in the wrong places. A lot of the time they’re trying to show it in their own way.
Sounds like your SO is a really sweet guy.
Post # 8
@pokie45: See, I knew you’d find something! 🙂 It’s the little things. I’m so glad you had a positive conversation.