It's time to say goodbye…any kind words welcome

posted 2 years ago in Pets
Post # 2
1430 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

She’s beautiful!! 

My Brother-In-Law just had to put down his 11 year old chihuahua last week (our chihuahua’s dad – we have a few members of their puppet family). 

It’s heartbreaking. Unfortunately, he just had to come to the decision that the dog’s quality of life was no longer adequate. I’m sure you’re feeling guilty and sad and dreading this. Try to find peace that you gave your cat a wonderful life. Good luck, OP! Many hugs. 

Post # 3
1199 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

oh bee, my heart hurts so badly for you! Only you and your baby can know when it is time, but I do believe that they let us know when they don’t want to hang on anymore. Is she otherwise a happy girl? does she purr when she is near you and seem content enough? If so, she may not be ready. Her staying in your room may be nothing more than the equivalent of a really old person being happy to be in their favorite and most familiar place. If you truly believe that she has had enough pain and is ready to go, then do so. But really try to see what she wants as you best can, too. 

Post # 4
3536 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

bretagne422 :  my heart goes out to you. i was in a similar situation with my 13 year old dog 2 months ago. she was in perfect helath, except for her hips. she had degenerative myelopathy, and could barely walk – she was peeing and pooping in the house because it was so hard for her to get up, and she hated trying to get around. we got a special harness for her, but there’s only so much you can do for an 80# dog when they lose all independent mobility. it killed me to make the decision to put her down. i still feel guilty over it – it’s not like she had cancer, afterall. i felt like i was giving up on her. i dont know what to tell you, except just that you’re not alone. <3 <3 <3

Post # 5
507 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

bretagne422 :  I haven’t had to experience this yet, but my heart goes out to you.  <3

Ask your vet for their input. I’d say to hold off making any decisions until you’re absolutely sure and at peace. (((hugs)))

Post # 6
1047 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

What a beautiful cat, and I’m sorry for what you’re going through. When I was 17, we put our dog to sleep. She had a hard time getting up from laying down and the day they decided to put her down, my mom found her in a pile of urine, unable to get up. We brought her to the vet, and my father and I was with her when they put her down. It was important for us to be there for her, and for her not to be alone. My mom regrets not being in the room with her. It was very difficult, but you know your pet best.

Post # 7
4252 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I think your instincts are pretty spot on unfortunately.  If she’s not acting like she normally has, and not leaving the bedroom, you are correct, her quality of life has diminished.  It’s harder than hell to let a pet go, however remember the amazing life you have provided for her.  Looking at this picture…you can tell from that one picture that she loves you.  You have loved her and cared for her for so many years, and she knows your love.  I am a pet lover and animal lover, and I totally get how you are feeling.  I know it’s not easy.  When the time comes, I strongly suggest bringing someone with you who can drive you to the vet office and back.  It’s hard, even when it is the right decision.  Sending lots of love!

Post # 8
478 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

My sister is a vet tech, and she explained it to me this way when I had to make the decision to let my beloved cat Loki go – This is our last act of love for them. By releasing them from pain, we are giving them a gift of peaceful rest even though it is painful for us. It’s hard because we love them and we know that we can not be selfish in our love to make them suffer longer than necessary. I’m sending you and your beautiful girl lots of virtual hugs from here! xoxo

Post # 9
1017 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

catskillsinjune :  oh no… I had the same thing happen in March with my old german shepherd.. he had discospondylitis and amazingly was improving and could walk with help and a harness but vet thinks he also had DM and about a month after he was starting to get better he just went so downhill until it was impossible to get his harness on because he was in so much pain. He didn’t even want to try to stand and he couldn’t even turn himself around in his bed so we had to rotate him so he wouldn’t get sores. Then I knew it was time and he didn’t even want to chew his bone toy… even tho he literally couldn’t move I still feel guilty. I know it was the right decision, and I would have gone on caring for him forever but he started to experience pain and he was tired and sad.


OP, you know your pet best. I have a cat too and I dread the day I may have to make this decision again. I don’t have any good advice except consider being there with her when it happens. So sorry 🙁

Post # 10
2332 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

Just know that you gave her the most amazing life you could.

You were literally her whole world and you gave her the most amazing one.

Hugs OP, I know how much this hurts but hold on to that

Post # 11
151 posts
Blushing bee

You are doing the right thing. She doesn’t need to suffer. Now she will be your sweet kitty angel. Hugs to you.

Post # 12
97 posts
Worker bee

Bee, I think if you are asking the question you already know the time is near. It’s one of the hardest things in the world. It’s nearly 6 years since I had to help my 13 year old dog make her transition when she developed terminal kidney disease, and I still cry when I think about it. But I also laugh when I think of funny things she did and smile when I remember her escapades–she was a beagle with a big personality. So glad you had these wonderful years with your cat. Sending hugs.

Post # 13
2592 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2017 - Courthouse

I’m so sorry, Bee. I lost my family dog over a year ago and I’m still not over it. It’s one of the worst things but it’s comforting to know you gave the world to her ❤️❤️❤️

Post # 14
1960 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

What a beautiful kitty; it sounds like you’ve given her a long and amazingly happy life. Sending you lots of love!!

Post # 15
1812 posts
Buzzing bee

20 years–wow, what a long time for a cat to live. You must have taken extra special care of her! And clearly you still are.

In these situations I try to get a vet’s opinion. I don’t want my pets in pain or the quality of life diminished so that the pet is miserable 24/7. If there’s any way I can do anything to get more time, I usually do (and maybe that’s me being selfish for a little bit). I think each case is individual and you have to feel out what’s right and when. I usually just intuitively know when it’s time. 

She’s beautiful and whatever you decide whenever will be the right thing. She will love you regardless.

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