Post # 16
I can’t really say anything to help, except for I’m sorry and she is absolutely adorable. And like many have already said, talk to a vet for advice.
Also, you have given her 20 wonderful years of life, which really is the very best any cat-owner can hope for.
Wishing you strength and wisdom.
Post # 17
- Wedding: May 2016 - Sussex, UK
Gorgeous cat. We had our 19 year old cat put to sleep a couple of years ago. He was still eating and drinking but he started having breathing difficulties and his little body was giving up. It was heartbreaking holding him the last time. He was our family cat so we all went to our parents’ house to say goodbye. Mum took him to the vets and cuddled him as he was put to sleep.
We also had a dog with arthritis that struggled to stand up and we couldn’t take him for walks anymore. He still ate and enjoyed being stroked but his quality of life had diminished and we had to make the decision to say goodbye.
You’ve given your cat a good life and I think the compassionate thing to do would be to let her go soon. I know it’s hard. *hugs*
Post # 18
bretagne422 : I’m so so sorry. We went through this with our beloved cat who we worked so hard to keep alive and happy. I was so afraid of the process. I didn’t want to see my fur baby not alive and I was nervous what his body would feel like. He gave us a very clear sign that he was ready the morning we did it. Our vet came to the house with a tech and they gave him an anesthetic injection to put him into a coma first. I could see him breathing and he looked so peaceful. They let that kick in and then gave him the other injection. It worked quickly and our buddy at was at peace. He was warm and soft and looked like he was asleep. I remember feeling so grateful even though my heart broke into a million pieces. It was the right decision. Praying for peace for all of you. The pain gets better very slowly over time. ❤️
Post # 19
Aw poor bee! I’m going through almost the exact same thing right now. My kitty started limping about three weeks ago and we just found out that that it’s bone cancer ☹️ He’s having a lot of trouble walking is starting to refuse food. He’s a had a long and comfortable life but it’s still so so so sad. I got him for my 12th birthday!
Sending you lots of love during this difficult time!
Post # 20
- Wedding: March 2018 - The Venue, Barkisland, UK
I’m sorry Bee, she’s a beautiful girly.
I had my 25yo horse put down last month; we’d been together 13 years. I can honestly say that making the decision was the hardest part and I tortured myself for 8 months. In the end, he had two acute illnesses in January and April this year which were extremely painful for him. I couldn’t bring myself to let him go in so much pain on either occasion (although if we hadn’t been able to turn a corner in a few hours each time, I would have done the right thing) but I really felt like I was just waiting for the next episode like a ticking timebomb. I gave him a good month, after that, and spoilt him rotten.
Can I suggest that you do a little research or ask your vet about what exactly happens before, during and after? Horses are quite different due to their size and the fact that you have options of how it’s done, but watching a couple of YouTube videos beforehand helped me to make that choice and also feel more prepared to go through that with him.
For me, I followed my gut instinct and managed to make the right decision at the right time for us. That means I have no guilt, no doubt and no regret which is what I was so worried about. In reality I think I dealt with all that before hand and some people do. We all grieve differently. I truly feel like he’s still with me – just further away than he was – and so acceptance kicked in within an hour after the initial shock wore off.
In this situation there’s no right or wrong decision. Best wishes *hugs*
Post # 21
What does the vet say? I’d keep her as long as possible.
Post # 22
bretagne422 : What a beautiful kitty, as a cat mumma myself this makes me want to sob, but it sounds like you are doing the right thing. Massive love and hugs to you. It sounds like you have been the most wonderful hooman x
Post # 23
Thanks so much to everyone for your kind words. I really needed the support–and still do, frankly.
I’ve decided that it definitely is time. I don’t want to keep her around just because I can’t bear to lose her yet. That’s not fair to her. She really can’t get on or off the bed at all anymore. Our appointment is at 11am tomorrow, and I’m a wreck. I know it’s the right choice but it’s still like my heart is being ripped out of my chest. Thanks again to everyone for posting. I don’t personally know anyone who’s gone through this, so rereading your words and feeling supported is really helping me a lot.
Post # 24
bretagne422 : Aw, I’m so sorry. It’s honestly one of the hardest decisions you’ll ever have to make. But an important one. I’ve had to do it a few times, so I know how you feel. Today will probably be the worst, but eventually – in time – it will get better, I promise.