(Closed) Its Tuesday and I feel the need to complain about my wedding party.

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

Im sorry this stuff has happened and affected your Bridal Party. However, I wish we had smaller bridal party! My original magic number was 4 and I ended up with 7. It was honestly just more of a headache. More people to please and make sure our happy. More room for drama to occur.

Post # 4
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I loved my girls but having fewer people in our wedding party would have made life SO much easier. I envy you. What’s most important is having people who you feel are that important in your life stand up there with you. It would be worse to have a bunch of random people!!!

Post # 4
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1269 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

We are only having MM son and daughter, but requesting all the wedding guests to wear royal blue- dresses and ties,,,,,  that way in the pictures it will look like big wedding party.  ( If we had a big wedding group we would have no guests- lol)

Post # 5
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Don’t worry about it. FH has 2 groomsmen. I have 3 but I thought about dropping mine to 2, bc I love my sister to death, but she could really care less about anything to do with the wedding. You have the people who matter and who can do it. The other 2 (the Maid/Matron of Honor and the one who is pregnant) would be there if they thought they could. And you know they are standing beside you in heart, so just be happy and enjoy the day. I don’t personally see a problem with not having any attendants either.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

We only had 4 (plus a flower girl) and it was just right!  I think it’s more the wedding industry that tries to make us think that we *must* have more.  I can guarantee you that no one besides you and maybe your Fiance will think “OMG!  Why don’t they have more??  Don’t they have any friends??”.  You are more then fine with your 4 person wedding party!  🙂

Post # 7
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Who cares if you are having a small bridal party.  You are not losers for having only 4 people.  Technically we are only having 6 , but 2 of the 6 are Junior Bridesmaid or Best Man and Groomsmen so they won’t be able to do after party etc.  So after party sake would be only 4. It is not a big deal really.

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Awww sending hugs your way. How many guests do you have? {I ask because with less guest, you are expected to have smaller wedding party anyway } I had a hard time getting my 5 BMs together cos I have more male friends than female friends and I felt weird asking some of them to be my Bridesmaid or Best Man knowing that i wasnt really as close to them as I would have liked

 

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I kinda got sucked into having 5 BMs. Girls at my (former) office, that got REALLY excited about my wedding and asked to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man….! And I didn’t know how to say no. Lol I wish I could have just grown a pair and said no thanks….and kept it to the two girls that I know will be in my life forever.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Hubby had 2 best men & I had 2 MOHs; we had a ringbearer, broombearer, flower girl and jr. bridesmaid. That was it!

Having a small Wedding Party was the best decision we ever made. It actually cut off a ggod deal of drama since we each picked our truly lifelong friends and it eliminated all of the “Why was he/she picked and not me?”

There were fewer people offering their opinions from day-to-day and it made agreeing on BM’s dresses super easy! There were also fewer people hovering over me on the wedding day & fewer people in the suite while getting ready, etc.

Relax & enjoy. It is a day for you & Fiance to be happy and have a celebration that truly reflects your personalities. If that means having a small Wedding Party then embrace it and be thankful for those wonderful, close friends who will be there with you.

Post # 11
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I got sucked into my bridal party as well, BluSkies. I really only wanted one on each side, but Fiance has two brothers, and I wanted to include my brother. So we decided to have more bridesmaids which included one of his sisters, which meant that the only family member left out was his oldest sister. So, now they’re all included to keep the peace. But none of my bridal party even seems to care about the wedding with the exception of my Maid/Matron of Honor and the Best Man. Go figure! We include all these ppl to keep them happy and then they don’t seem interested anyway. Wish I went with my initial thoughts and just had one witness each.

So, the moral of the story is, don’t feel like a loser. Many of us are in situations either where we don’t have the important ppl in our lives included, or we have all kinds of ppl included who aren’t important.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

Don’t feel too bad…We only have a Maid/Matron of Honor and best man.

Post # 13
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648 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

We’re only having a flower girl. My closest friends are my sisters. He has guy friends, but never gets to see them since he works out of state. Everyone we’ve talked to looked at us weird when I say we don’t have a bridal party. Oh well! No drama for me. 🙂

Post # 14
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

@karatechick27: That’s all we had too, and it worked out wonderfully for us 🙂

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

We are only having 4 too!  I don’t think it’s a big deal.

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