IUD is ruining my sex life! (TMI) Experiences & suggestions welcome!

posted 2 years ago in Wellness
Post # 2
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Busy bee

Following because I can completely understand! Although I’m on the pill and that hasn’t affected my sex drive, lexapro sure has. I never turn down sex but I don’t initiate as often as I used to. Before lexapro, I was on sertraline which was… Even worse. I also had an issue with vaginal wetness, I was suddenly dry as the Sahara despite us having wonderful sex and we had to start using lube for a while. The switch helped. Definitely tell your doctor this. Have you considered progesterone arm implants? I have several friends with this and they love it. 

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2006

Ive had MIRENA and i believe im due for removal this summer. I am dreading the removal because the insertion was brutal for me. My period was and still is all over the place. @ first my sex drive decreased and about a year in, i regained the horny tickle back. I gained weight and its sooo hard to keep it off, ( i literally bust my ass off working out) if i slack i can gain 5 lbs easy in a week. My boobs started lactating, and i go one month with just a quick two day spotting, to the next bleeding for weeks. Its so frustrating. so far is the only thing that has kept me from getting prego, i tried just about all they have to prevent pregnancies and this one has been the winner, although its screwed w everything else. If you feel more comfortable w the pill, i say go for it. the iud works so differently from woman to woman, so you might get back to normal soon, or it might just keep on giving you issues. I decided to deal with all the cons of mine, rather than have another child. I have 3 kids and were all concieve while being on BC.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

allthingsshiny01 :  the removal is 100000x less painful than the insertion!

I was on the pill for about 5 years and due to migranes swiched to Jaydess. That worked pretty well for me but didn’t take my period away totally but it didn’t have any side affects. I did get a chemical pregnany while on Jaydess so I had my second one removed cause I didn’t trust it (3 doctors said it was workinf fine…just one of those things). Now I’m on minipill and it has taken off my period completely. A friend of mine has the capsule and you can’t see it. unfortunately BC is one of those things that are really indivicual on what fits to people.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2018

Yea. I hear you, girl. My sex drive is pretty pathetic. I’m going to have my Mirena removed right after our wedding, to give my body time to adjust to being BC free again. I swear however, when I started BC I went from “I can never get enough” to “meh. I’m fine.” My fiance has never known me BC free. I think he will be in for a rude awakening if things return to normal!! However, since Mirena, I haven’t worried about unwanted pregnancy, which I was in constant fear of while using other BC forms. The mental relief is worth it to me. 

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

Charliejeorge :  I had a similar experience with no periods but lower sex drive. I also have a good amount of acne and it was getting BAD on the IUD. I went from the Skylda IUD to a combo BC pill. The pill has been fine, but I’m not as sensitive as you described.

Honestly, the only alternative I would suggest is a non-hormonal option. Your experiences sound very drastic and complicated when it comes to hormones. Does you doctor have any input on this? Unfortunately, every time I’ve asked my doctor (even gyn) they just say, let’s try another pill. To me, there’s only so many pills I can try before I just give up. I am not going to start my new pack next week and am going to track my ovulation and cycles. I wouldn’t suggest that everyone do this, but I am done with hormonal BC.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee

The pill kills my sex drive, but the copper IUD doesn’t. However the copper IUD gives me horrible side effects; cramps, PMS, heavier (like unbelievably so) periods, longer periods, sore boobs etc etc However I do know that other women get on really well with it or settle down after a short time. It might be worth discussing with your doctor, if you’re purely on BC for BC as opposed to ‘period management’.

I’m going to have the IUD taken out, and I’m just not certain what to do next. I’m looking at the Mirena, and hoping that a lower dose of hormones in the localised area will be the winner. I’ve also been reading about the Natural Cycles app but OH doesn’t want to risk that. I just don’t know if I want to use condoms and at this point we don’t want him to get the snip so it feels like it’s all on me.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

I didn’t have this problem on Skyla, but it has been an issue with Lyleena or whichever one my new gyno switched me to without asking. (I started a new job/insurance after getting my first iud and getting a new one became a whole thing.)

It was actually only when another bee mentioned her iud affecting her sex drive that I realized that’s probably what was happening to me. I still have some work to do, but what has helped me a bit is to purposefully get in the mood before initiating. So it’s like, you want to just decide to have sex that day and then before approaching your SO take a little time to read a romance novel, watch porn, look at pictures of Michael B. Jordan… whatever it is that gets you going. 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

I have the Mirena, and it has significantly lowered my sex driver. We used to have sex 2-3 times a week, and now we have sex about once a week. I never initiate, whereas before I would. I just don’t have a sex drive and honestly sometimes it feels like a chore. However I don’t turn him down (unless I don’t feel well), and once we get going I do get into it. It’s like I don’t feel like doing it beforehand, but while I’m doing it I’m enjoying it. Fortunately for me he isn’t bothered by it, he doesn’t have a huge sex drive either although I think he’d rather we have sex a bit more than we do. I’ve been making more of an effort lately to initiate sex when I realize we haven’t had sex in a while, even if I’m not feeling it.

For me the pros outweight the cons. I like not having periods (or very rarely), and not having to remember to take the pill every day (I was really bad about that). Although if my SO had a high sex drive it would be much more of an issue.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee

allthingsshiny01 :  the removal will be the most intense relief you’ve ever felt in your life. It’ll pinch for 1/4 of a second (and not nearly as intensely as the insertion), then you’ll be overcome with an intense, cool wave of relief. 

 

Dont be nervous! Getting mine removed was the best decision I’ve ever made in my entire life. My sex drive improved, the dreaded backne went away, my skin cleared up, my mood was more stable, my temper dissipated, my hair stopped shedding. Life without hormonal BC in general has made me feel like a million bucks!

Post # 14
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Newbee

thesecondwife :  OMG, sertraline is the WORST! Sertraline sent me and my fiancé to couples’ therapy a few years back because my libido plummeted and we couldn’t figure out why. I got so f-ing tired of doctors telling me “Well, foreplay is important for women,” and giving me pamphlets on emotional intimacy. I just wanted to shake them and yell “I know that garbage already, will you please just believe me that I know my body and I know something is WRONG?!?” He thought I wasn’t satisfied with him anymore, I thought I was broken. Ugh. Such a nightmare. And finally, my therapist thought to ask “what anti-depressant are you on?” And boom, all fixed (well, after the months of brain-zapping SSRI withdrawal while I weaned off, but that’s another story). 

BeeDD :  This was my experience as well with a copper IUD, side effects included. Yeah, the side effects were crazy. Instead of three days of painless menstruation on the pill, I jumped to seven days of heavy bleeding and cramping. Also had to learn about “middle shmertz” (sp?), which I never experienced when the pill kept me from ovulating, and instead of knowing that my period would start Wednesday morning every four weeks, I had to start tracking my sore breasts and learning to listen to my body again. It was like second puberty. But once the side effects diminished (took almost a year!), I had a better sex drive than I ever had on any birth control pill. 

Post # 15
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Busy bee

jake4401 :  That’s fucking ridiculous that it took them that long to ask you what medication you were on, that should have been their first question! I’m so glad you advocated for yourself. Sounds like your and your SO went through a nightmare. So sorry. And I remember the withdrawal too. I stopped taking sertraline for two months before taking lexapro and I was not ok that first several weeks. Could not sleep, weird headaches that felt like zaps, and I was super nauseous. But my libido was SO HIGH again before I started lexapro. 

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