- 5 years ago
- Wedding: July 2013
Okay, I’ve read a lot about these things, and a lot of my information is coming from WeddingBee, but I have some “me” specific questions I want to ask, and I don’t want to a) hijack another thread or b) revive a dead thread, so I decided I would make my own.
I have been considering getting an IUD for several years now, but am not sure about hormonal vs copper, and how it would work with my body. My Gyno had refused to talk IUDs with me in the past because I was unmarried and childless (despite being in a commited relationship for 6 years with no intent on having children), but said we could revist the conversation after I was married. Well, I got married and she still refused to talk IUDs with me! I am currently in the process of looking for a new Gyno – one that will at least answer my darn questions. Until then, I am going to ask you Bees for help.
I’ve not really had problems with the 21 day pills followed by 7 “period” days, no spotting and/or bleeding in between periods, and super light periods that last 3-4 days at most. I absolutely LOVE the pill! However, due to my health issues I am frequently on antibiotics and sometimes I will have bouts of vomitting caused by a variety of usually unpredictable triggers. For both these reasons, and another pill I am on, Darling Husband and I use condoms + pullout (so tmi… pill + condom + him stopping to ‘finish’) because that other pill I am on has shown to cause birth defects and can lead to miscarriages that are dangerous for the mother. In three months I finally get to stop this “nasty pill” and while Darling Husband and I will still have to use condoms due to the antibiotics and being “ill”, he will at least get to enjoy not having to stop. (Again, sorry for the tmi.)
On top of all that, I when I am not on hormonal birth control I will have maybe two periods a year. I got my first cycle at 15, it lasted almost 3 months (some days heavier than others), then ended, and I didn’t get another one until I was 17, had it for 4 1/2 weeks, then got another about 6 months later that lasted 2 1/2 weeks. It was at this time the doctor suggested I get on to birth control to see if we could regulate my cycle. It worked well. I was finally “normal”, but in college I went on a whole “no meds” trip, and my periods got wonky again like they were when I was 17. My doctor urged me to get back on the pill, and on the pill I’ve stayed, despite my other medical issues. Basically the pill only really helps regulate me now, and is not (to me) a reliable form of BC, though my Gyno said it was “fine”. Also, I cannot be on the pills that you take for 3 months, because they just make me have horrible periods. My gyno wanted me to stay on it for 6 months, and I kid you not, I bled for nearly the full 6 months.
So, when it comes to the hormones in an IUD, are they more the monthly pill hormones, or the 4 periods a year hormones? Would someone totally irregular like me even benefit from hormonal IUDs, or should I do a copper IUD and just keep taking the hormonal pills to keep me regulated?
Also, are the risks really all that bad for someone who has never had a child? If it is just pain, pain I can deal with. I deal with pain most days, so my tolerance is pretty high. If it is the risk of loss of fertility, well, when I turn 30 I am getting the procedure done so that I can’t have kids if my medical condition hasn’t improved, and maybe even still then. My medical issues can be passed through genes, so I’ve long since decided that I will NOT be having children of my own. (I reserve my right to change my mind, but I seriously doubt I will…)
I am 26 years old, 5’2″, 100lbs, anemic, with other health issues – none of which I’ve found has any complications with an IUD. With an IUD (with or without hormones) we would be protected from pregnancy, for the most part, right? Even if my oral pill (assuming I just use the copper IUD) were to fail due to antibiotics/being sick? We could even have regular intercourse without a million backups, right? (sometimes we don’t use a condom and even though Darling Husband withdraws, we still rush to Walgreens to get Plan B and I have a wonderfully icky time).
An IUD seems perfect for me and Darling Husband at this time in our lives, and seems to be the most non-perminant option for us.
So, advice? Ideally I would save this for my gyno, but I am curious and want to know what other people experiences with it are while I search for a new gyno. Thanks!